I’m a Data PM and my background is quite technical, but i seem to keep coming across lots of men who love “explaining” me “techy” concepts.
How do you all manage this? It’s exhausting 😩.

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my advice: be more technical than them 😆. use the buzz words and let them know you have dealt with xxx before, be casual as if you are like chatting about the weather

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This. Show them you know your stuff too. Sometimes I also just interrupt eye contact and disengage when they drag on too long. They usually get the point. (I'm not a very patient person.)

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I encountered the same issue. I use different tactics depending on my mood and my patience which includes
1. Tuning out
2. Asking them their thoughts on very technical concepts and then letting them trip themselves up
3. Thanking them for explaining my domain to me and then asking them to move on with the meeting

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#3 is amazing, might be my new favorite

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Straight up, you have to set your boundaries with men. I am passionate about this because of all the times this has happened to me too. You'd be doing them a favor by telling them they're mansplaining things you already understand.

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We take this kind of thing pretty seriously if it shows up in patterns. Luckily, I haven't had to deal with it too much as we try to get a sense of how respectful our employees really are beforehand.

I just get used to it honestly. Men always think they have to mansplain everything when talking to us women. I am more educated then most of them so I just smile and listen and nod, and then roll my eyes when I walk away. I know I could shove them in a mental locker so I just let it roll.

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You'd be doing them a huge favor by telling them that you're well aware of how it all works.

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