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It's draining, and you're absolutely not alone. What helped me was building a support system of other women in post — having people who validate your experience is huge. Also: document everything and don’t be afraid to correct people with confidence.
Female network... key! Also, dont be askeered... face down those 'gentlemen'. Sigh.
As a male engineer, I consider female engineers to be one grade above whatever their title says. Because this thing you're saying happens everywhere. I'm sorry to tell you that what you're describing isn't at all unique to being a VFX Producer. I'm sorry you have to do extra just to be treated as equal.
I’ve experienced this off and on throughout my career. I would get so frustrated over it, now I just kind of brush it off as funny. Somebody else is going through the extra work just to make sure that I’m right. It’s on them at that point and just kind of is what it is at this point.
It's frustrating for sure. I've learned that setting boundaries and being vocal about your expertise is key. Don’t be afraid to assert your authority, even if it feels uncomfortable. Advocate for yourself!
So true, and yet tough to assert our authority without sounding defensive. Keep tone neutral. That's helped me.
I always mutter, to myself, "bless their little pointed heads". and I don't mean their craniums. lol. Keep it together, love. I"m 65 and I promise... it's vastly improved from where we were when I was "coming up" in business. OY! and several VEY's!
Just do a good job and shrug that off. If you know your stuff and your work is unassailable people will come to know that and you won't feel like you're being second-guessed. If you get down to it, everyone is constantly having to establish their credibility, that's just how things work.
But you can't "shrug it off" because it affects you. She doesn't feel like she's being second guessed, she correctly perceives that she's being second guessed. She's running the same race, except men are running on a nice track and she's running through mud, expected to keep pace.
BE CONSISTANT AND PERSISTANT UNTIL ITS UNDENIABLE
This strategy doesn't work for people in denial about a competent woman.
My reframe has been "I'm not responsible for other people's personal development". And I work on releasing expectations for people steeped in patriarchy (unconscious or not). Yet, sometimes just being in the room is a catalyst for change and your presence is planting a seed.
Unfortunately the biggest ego is often heard the loudest, even if they don't have the skills to back it up. I've seen it first hand.
I'm very sorry to read you are having this experience. I thought as a society and workforce we had progressed a little further than this. Unfortunately there are still Neanderthals among us.
Ironically, I have recently been approached from a couple of companies after they have reviewed my resume and showed much interest. Unfortunately, when I call to take it to the next level and they hear a man's voice, there is an immediate pause. I know right then and there, they wanting to hire a woman. ...My name is Kelly, I'm a man. The interest quickly gets side stepped.
Discrimination is still very much present in the workforce for all of us. Hang in there folks.
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