I'm in a negativity spiral. I've got 8 things taking up all the space in my brain. I can do the gratitude game but it's like I can line up the things I'm grateful for in front of me but they are elusive. I can't quite touch them. I can try to do the next right thing but I'm running out of energy. Restless, irritable, and discontent. Haven't felt this way in months.

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Write down the 8 things in your journal. That’s the first step to getting them out of your brain and shrinking their power.

Then, whatever the items are, address them one by one. Prioritize them, and then determine what the smallest little action you can take is to address the item. Start there and just focus on one thing at a time. One breath at a time.

Also remember that no matter how bad it feels, it doesn’t last forever.

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I’m in the same place today. Thinking up things that are highly improbable and spiraling in worry with them. Hence, I’m planning to:

(1) I’m going to write them down as D1 suggested. Even though they’re not even real and I definitively have no control. I always mean to but I never write and when I do the effect is usually quite surprisingly good.

(2) I’m going to go back to some working out from tomorrow, like 10-15 mins every 2h. My therapist says to visualize the energy flowing into the ground. But physical activity is grounding any way. Keeps the spiraling in check.

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From As Bill Sees It (note: I found this super powerful when I was feeling how you’re feeling):

November 4
~ Page 308 ~

A Way Out of Depression

“During acute depression, avoid trying to set your whole life in order all at once. If you take on assignments so heavy that you are sure to fail in them at the moment, then you are allowing yourself to be tricked by your unconscious. Thus you will continue to make sure of your failure, and when it comes you will have another alibi for still more retreat into depression.

“In short, the `all or nothing’ attitude is a most destructive one. It is best to begin with whatever the irreducible minimums of activity are. Then work for an enlargement of these — day by day. Don’t be disconcerted by setbacks — just start over.”

~ LETTER, P. 1960 ~

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Thank you

I am sorry to hear you are feeling this way OP. I have definitely been there so I know how hard it can be to pull yourself out of it. One thing that has really helped me is therapy. Its nice to have someone to sort of unload on every week, not going to lie. I hope you start feeling better.

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