I'm not a mom yet (don't kick me out of the group!) but have been going through fertility and IVF treatments for more than 6 months. I'm constantly having bloodwork, appointments and calls with the doc during working hours.

Any advice on what I can and should tell my team about my health? They can tell I'm in and out of the doctor's office and I suspect they think I'm pregnant. Maybe it's being chock-full of hormone pills, but I'm sensitive about everyone thinking I'm pregnant when I'm not.

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Hi! You absolutely should be in this group!!! And I've been there! Just remember to prioritize yourself - and do what will make YOU feel most comfortable. Don't worry about speculation – people can't be helped. But if you think you'll be happier with people knowing you've got something going on, then by all means feel free to tell them whatever you want. From a health condition you're managing, to flat out doing fertility treatment. For what it's worth, I found fertility treatment so challenging physically, mentally and emotionally, that I had to tell my two day-to-day partners at the agency (the people I work most closely with) so they knew where I was coming from, and could be there for me on the days I really needed it. For everyone else, I didn't bother, but knowing those two knew helped me feel like I wasn't alone (which made a huge difference). Sending you all the positive vibes and best of luck. You are doing amazing!!! <3

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I'll just add that the speculation is SO STUPID AND ANNOYING. Nobody speculates whether men are about to have a kid. It's unfair and doesn't have to be your burden!

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Maybe say you have a health condition that’s being looked into? Some people on my team have legit chronic issues or serious conditions and they’ve needed to schedule a bunch of appointments at times but they got ahead of it by telling us and giving a heads up that they would be sending us OOO invites. And a few people I know were like hey I started seeing a therapist so I’m going to be blocking some time off on my calendar for that. But whatever the reason is, it’s no ones business and you don’t have to share any details.

That's a good option. I do want some room for flexibility and grace here. I don't want to share any details but would appreciate some support. Thanks!

I was there for a few years too and I didn’t tell anyone. I did all of my blood work at 7am every other day for months and then trekked into work. It’s no one’s business unless you want it to be.

Thanks for posting OP ❤️ I’m lurking in this bowl as a non-mom on the road to fertility, and I felt like I could’ve written your post. FWIW I told my direct manager, and we have a good enough report that I can just say “Hey i’m out doing fertility things” and he says “cool see you tomorrow.” As long as the work is done and on time, and he doesn’t put too much on my plate, and I’m clear about what’s “too much”, we’ve gotten by just fine.

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