I’m quiet and shy at work. At the gym today someone told me they think I’m social and bubbly. I’m actually an introvert who plays the part of an extrovert sometimes, but struggle to be extroverted at work because the environment is toxic and untrusting. Now I’m trying to meld the two into my work environment, where it’s toxic.

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I can relate to that. I generally feel that I'm an introvert, I'm happiest doing my work quietly and not dealing with a lot of social interaction. But that's not really adequate in my role, so I have to step out and be a lot more social than may be comfortable. I think of it as being a performer who overcomes stage fright on a regular basis.

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Ooof that is hard OP and I have been there. When things start to get really toxic that is when I start to stay more to myself. I don't like being caught up in the drama or gossip so I just find it better to keep to myself. People started calling me antisocial at my last job and I didn't care one bit. I will do anything to keep my peace.

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Same here! You know the term “fake it till you make it” yep that’s us lol

I don’t fake anything. Not even the color of my hair. That’s probably why I’m struggling though

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