I’m retiring after 40 years of practice and I realized I don't know who I am without my bar card. I’m cleaning out my officeand looking at all these files, and I’m struck by the realization that Lawyer has been my entire personality since 1986. I don't have hobbies, I don't have a non-legal social circle, and I’m terrified of what’s coming. To the younger folks: please, for the love of god, build a life that exists outside of these four walls. What do you do when the main character of your life is a profession you’re about to leave behind?

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Dig deep and put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Go to charity events, join a social club, put yourself out there. It’s hard as hell and will pay dividends if you get past the discomfort phase.

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Think hobbies. Think about the things you loved to do before you got this busy. Travel, books, exercise, hiking/walks, food, wine, volunteering.... anything?

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Retired after 40 years too. Red cross disaster deployments, pickleball, travel, food bank warehouse volunteer, nonprofit board, pro bono work.

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This has to be fake. Who says their entire personality was Lawyer other than someone making fun of those people 😂

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What the literal F lol poor dude is lost.

I got this same advice from my now-retired mentor when a partner in my office hit 90 and kept coming in because he had nothing to go to. My mentor was in the middle of deliberately preparing a life for herself outside work — volunteering, local politics, environmental work — so that she would not be in the same spot.

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I feel your pain. I'll be where you are in 6 years. I've been thinking about this recently.

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Ditto! I'll just leave it at that.

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When your personality is the profession your about to leave behind, welcome your new profession with open arms if that may look like a nice guy you've just met. 🫶🏾🫶🏾

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