In case you fall in love with someone, would you have the courage to tell your partner about it?

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Falling in love to a new person means you must have been talking to this person and investing your time to that person. Thats already cheating, in my opinion.

You might want to tell your partner but be aware of the consequences, possible break up/divorce, strain in relationship/marriage.

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Lust or attraction is one thing, but in love? You've already cheated. It takes connection intentionally developed over time to reach that kind of feeling for someone. Yes, tell your partner, because they deserve to know. I keep a respectful emotional distance from people of the opposite sex and can't imagine accidentally falling in love with someone.

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That's a tough question. I've had the experience of having a crush on someone, or feeling what's honestly just infatuation. I would never mention it because it's really just a frivolous and fairly innocent thing. Talking about it would elevate it to something it's not. I mean, we all have occasional crazy thoughts in our heads, and in our heads is where they should stay!

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They’re called intrusive thoughts my dear.. you don’t say them out loud!

If you’re telling your partner that; you either want a 3-way or a breakup. Be honest🤦🏻

I assume you mean you fall in love with someone that is not your partner? I would probably be really nervous to tell them but I also think that would be the only right thing to do. It wouldn't be fair to your partner to not tell them how you are feeling. People in healthy relationships communicate.

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Lying by omission to avoid someone's reaction is manipulation. People deserve to know the truth about their relationship so they can make fully informed decisions about what to do going forward. Any way they react to the news is valid. I would have thought about consequences before falling in love with someone, not the consequence of honesty.

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Mm - depends on how I was planning to proceed

Is the other person also in love?

Suppose they're not.

Assume if you are in love then you must have been chatting it up with the person. If they don't feel the same way, I would keep it to myself. Why create drama.

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