Is dating cursed in this city or am I just bad at it?

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I deleted all my apps. It was making me depressed how non-committal everyone is. I’d rather be alone than feel like I’m speed dating my entire city.

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Yes

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It’s tough. The good ones are either already taken or not ready to settle down, in my experience.

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Eh, it's hit or miss. Hinge is decent.

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I just think there are a limited number of high-earning men overall. They typically fall into three categories: married, single or divorced (and not looking for anything serious), and a small remaining group that desires housewives, has random high expectations, or are just normal guys (40s-50s) who haven’t yet found someone. So, it’s tough. Chicago is better than NYC/LA/Miami because normal guys expect super model looking girls once they become HIE.

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And even then men will still play the super models, because those men have the pick of the litter of the models and want to try them all. No one is safe 😂

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I think Chicago is just a horrible city to date in

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This generation is not dating it's a joke

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The former

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Paradox of choice

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Yep! Deleted all the apps too. All of the women want the same few men, so most women get played and most men can’t find matches. The few men who all the women want like the attention and continue to play the field.

Finding someone rolls up to pure luck these days. I met the guy I’m talking to on instagram randomly😂 and who knows if that will even work 🤷🏿‍♀️.

Sorry for long message but like I said I could write a book. Dating right now is a math equation that will not add up. It’s all luck based and timing!

You still haven't figured out what is going on with dating?

Dating is cursed in the Western world period. Anywhere that adapts a Western culture of dating has dating issues. If you haven’t figured that out yet, you’re not being honest with yourself


if you want different results, find yourself a partner who’s not assimilated to Western culture.

@C2,

And has Western salary? High income earners are difficult to find as is. I think OP wants to date someone who makes the same or more money than them.

On god bro

lol no it’s absolutely terrible

Terrible experience to date

Im wondering the same lol

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