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How do women prefer to be turned down if the guy they’re pursuing is not interested. I know men have the capacity to deal with rejection poorly, and I’m not suggesting otherwise. But in my anecdotal experience , women take the gentle “no thanks, not interested” poorly.

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I’m a woman, and I’ve heard “no thanks, not interested” and I think I took it very well. In fact, I don’t personally know any women who didn’t take it well. Rejection usually stings a little if you like someone, but this is the best way. Definitely be direct and respectful. The worst is when people string you along because they aren’t brave enough to give the simple “no thanks, I’m not interested” reply.

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I might just leave it alone and let it fizzle out. I feel like this stuff speaks for itself eventually (unless you really are dating, then have to break it off eventually maybe)

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Be direct and clear, and above all, be kind.

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I just said to a very persistent girl, “we’re bros” and that pretty much ended her pursuit

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I am F and I prefer ghosting. For instance, if I text someone and that person doesn’t text me back. I get it and move on with some dignity because I wasn’t outright rejected. Plus, showing no interest helps the other party understand that there is simply no interest. If you reject her she may say that you were not reading things well and she was just being friendly.

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Tell em straight up, what you said at the end is fine. Yeah, don’t be brutal and say I think you’re ugly or your personality is terrible.

No is no, if they can’t handle it they need to grow up.

I find most people just ghost unless its become like a thing, maybe at least a few dates plus

I used to just ghost. Especially if it was just a date or 2. That was not cool of me. Ghosting is immature and rude. Be direct and respectful, and do not leave it open ended. “It has been nice getting to know you, but I don’t feel the connection I am looking for.” No “let’s be friends”, no “I’m not ready to date”, no “you’re amazing but…”

They might ask why, it’s fine to tell them why unless it is hurtful. They might be rude and that’s on them, you dodged a bullet and you can just block them at that point.

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