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Blue collar culture. You gotta be able to deal with and dish out the jabs.
It’s indisputable white collar employees look down on them, and a lot of the stuff we do is pretty dumb to an outsider. We stay up late without being told, broker office politics, worry about appearances, and don’t make anything physical.
^ lol this was me and I appear dumb as rocks because of how fast I typed this
My bf says that but I agree with him. People get college degrees and think they’re brilliant.. we’re experts on what exactly? How to format a PowerPoint?
I should’ve connected with you telepathically and said what you would’ve #missedopportunity
Do y’all just be getting married to anyone for the sake of getting married? How do y’all not know these core personality things way in advance of marriage
I am married. I have known my spouse since high school, dated for 6 years, married for 5. I am still finding new personality traits every now and then. People evolve, they change, they are not the same person year over year and that is the commitment of marriage...to grow together. So yeah, I can relate
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Can’t blame him — he’s probably not used to political nonsense and fake people
I was so furious reading the post but after I read this comment I started blindly supporting the SO of OP 😂
Like I outpace him in education. I make easily double. I’m intelligent and useful in the rest of everyday life.... and I make all sorts of things easier for him in his life, without bragging about it (although I’m entitled to) because that’s rude. *WTF does a girl gotta do to get some mutual respect*? Any ideas? Anyone???
Was this a one off comment? If it was, he could just be having a bad day and venting a little. Regardless, it sounds like your differences aka white collar vs blue collar are fueling some resentment. That may be something you both should address together
If I make a comment like he did, it’s normally driven by me perceiving that the other person doesn’t respect me. I worked in blue collar work before joining consulting and frequently felt as if white collar workers thought I was stupid or less worthwhile than them.
That’s just the thing though - I really admire what he does and I tell him all the time. He’s passionate about what he does, always knew it was for him. And I find the “blue collar” attractive, very much. I’m not seeking equal admiration- I know what I do makes no sense to him; what he does most of the time makes no sense to me either. But just some shred of mutual respect. He is much smarter than I am, and I love that too. But I’m not stupid. I feel like a dismissed housewife from the 50s.
Well I mean he’s not wrong - most of us office folk don’t know what the hell we’re talking about half the time to begin with.
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Where did you meet this guy
Have you seen Office Space? That’s what we look like to blue collar people
My husband is a Facilities Manager, but it’s still quite blue collar, and I’m obviously white collar, but we think of ourselves as a really great balance. No classism or resentment. This man remodeled our basement, fixes my car when somethings wrong, does awesome landscaping, repaired our driveway, and the list could go on.. he does a lot of things I care a lot about but would never want to do myself, plus he saves us tons of money with that skill set! And I manage our investments and bills, school stuff for the kids, the calendar, appointments, do our taxes etc. - I’m so glad we’re not the same type of person and he is too! We feel equally valued and trust the other completely with the things they take care of for our lives. So idk, I guess what I’m saying is.. do you both share mutual goals and feel appreciated for how you individually contribute to them? His comment was uncalled for, but is there a reason he’s expressing this that’s maybe deeper than what he said on the surface??
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Tbh, the thinly veiled (or not) classism against blue collar and working folks you see in our industries, particularly here, is pretty suffocating.
Just because you have a college degree and earn more money doesn’t necessarily make you a better human or — hot take — more worthwhile to society.
Read my above responses and stop being a dweeb. I see your point. I was trying to convey something different in the original post - not that I am Gods gift to the working world because I have a degree, but more that I try my best to enhance his life as much as mine because I love him but it’s viewed as theoretical nonsense and stupidity.
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Can I ask why you’re being humble about the contributions you make in the relationship and household? Men are men, and if he’s a blue collar guy he isn’t around soft shelled men who stay quiet when they’re insulted.
I know that doesn’t sound really PC, but I’m not trying to convey a shallow opinion. As a former blue collar guy myself, the happiest marriages I saw growing up were always the ones where the wife wasn’t afraid to assert herself in her domain. What he said to you was 🐮 💩 and it doesn’t matter if he didn’t mean to say it out loud.
I mean...most of what we do is pretty stupid. Worked as a property manager from my teens to post college and worked my ass off. I miss working with my hands and seeing actual results of my work rather than just a spreadsheet or powerpoint.
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Wish yall would marry ppl who like you lol
I’m white collar and I think our culture is stupid. We think we’re better but blue collar makes pretty good money for what they do and it’s tangible. We talk so fake on calls trying to sound smart. Don’t take it so hard
I’m not angling for “better.” I’m angling for “idk wtf you do either but I still dig it, it’s part of who you are right now.”
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My husband is blue collar and he doesn’t necessarily “get” office culture either and the bs we ramble about on calls now that he hears me WFH. idk I can kind of see where he’s coming from sometimes
Unfortunately this is pretty common with blue collar workers, goes hand in hand with the classism in america.
Blue collar workers often act like they do the only "honest" work in the world. Its virtue signaling since they can't really brag about anything else related to their work. It's lower pay, less skilled, and much harder on your body. So they have to invent something to feel proud of.
I think they get pushed to do this because of how the public/media discusses blue collar workers, who are not generally painted in a good light.
Sadly, in many cases, “higher education” means nothing. It’s like saying “I have a phd... I can make a soufflé”.... life isn’t about who is more educated... it’s about roles and expectations... regardless of whether it’s within the contract of marriage or at work or even on a sports team. Education is just brain programming... doesn’t prepare you for life or relationships... so, FIS and get down to making things work if you care enough... or walk away, if you both are making it a toxic trap, for each other.
He’s right tho