Stupid question but getting a divorce now and having a hard time figuring out what to do with sentimental things such as wedding pictures, travel pics, ornaments we bought together, etc. What did you do? Relationship was over 12 years and don’t know what to do. Should I jus pretend that those 12 years never happened or she was not there?

Divorce is amicable and based on growing apart rather than bc of cheating or fighting or anything else..

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I have 3 kids so I kept the book of wedding pictures and a few other family type pictures. I also kept a few other things of significance that I think my kids would like when they were older. I put it all in a plastic bin anf stored it away. It's OK to keep things if it makes you remember a happy time. I've been divorced for 7 years and now those things don't have much significance (kept a few vases and other trinkets that we got in trips).

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Put it all in a box, and leave it alone until you’re ready to think through what you want to do with it.

It took me 7 years to throw stuff away without guilt or sadness feelings.

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Good question. Mine was amicable too. I’m not sure if you have kids, but I kept some things for them. I figured they may want to see pictures. I also kept things of value. For some of the memory items, I just got rid of them. Despite it being an amicable divorce, I don’t want reminders of happier times (ornaments, etc.). Not sure if that is helpful.

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