It’s crazy to reflect on the fact that I’m voluntarily spending my Wednesday night reading about God and sobriety from an old book with a dozen strangers and will be back again tomorrow to do it again. Almost at 90 days (79).

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I used to think that people who got addictions were just weak. That they lacked discipline. I guess that thinking landed me in the tank. I woke up one day from a complete blackout to find my wife of 9 years up and left. She couldn't handle my problems and hated the man I had become. It was my wake up call that addiction can strike anyone, at anytime. I have a whole new outlook and have so much respect for those struggling to overcome their addictions. Congrats on the almost 90 days! Keep at it. You've got this.

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Hey, good for you! I think about that sometimes as well. It's such a change from what my life used to be, and what I used to think happiness meant. But after a while, you realize that you don't know how to live without it, and don't really want to. At least, that's how it was for me. I wouldn't trade reading the old book with the strangers for anything.

Before AA, I would have never viewed myself as the kind of person that would do any of this, let alone find it helpful. I sneered (inside) at ppl that read self help books. I was a devout atheist and the concept of a "higher power" felt inane. I saw myself as an intellectual and valued intelligence above all, and viewed any ppl being part of a group, such as AA, as dumb, misinformed, unintelligent, etc. But here I am - 20 months sober, more clear headed and comfortable in my own skin then I have ever been, and the promises are starting to come true. None of it was easy - my first year was especially brutal due to external life circumstances - but AA has changed my life, and it all works for me. It has opened up my life and gotten me out of my terrible, rotten cage of a head in ways I never imagined. The program works if you work it.

I have similar thoughts when I am at my regular Saturday morning meeting. There's no way I would choose to be anywhere doing anything at 7:30 am (earlier when I meet with my sponsor) before I got sober, and today it's a meeting that I genuinely look forward to. The drive in is rather peaceful, and it gets the weekend started off on the right foot.

Congrats on 79 days!

Congrats on your 79 days! Thats huge!

Hey you are doing a great job and that is all that matters. Congrats to you on how far you have come OP.

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