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Oh no did you go back? I am sorry OP want to vent or need any support?

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Welcome to the club! All my relationships end pretty fast. I sometimes wonder what I am doing wrong

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It was definitely more of a long distance situation-ship. He was clear with what he could give and who he was from the start, and I never said what I wanted. It was on off on and just needed to end. He was treating me worse and not better. It wasn’t consistent. We had a few healthy days of talking it out in person. Good honest conversation. I said everything I wanted to say. I gave it my all. Said how I felt. What I wanted. But he can’t commit. He wants to leave the door open but I have to be done and move on.

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