I’ve had three jobs in the last five years, and each time, I left not because I couldn’t do the work—but because the pressure would build, my ADHD symptoms would spiral, and I’d burn out. I mask, overcompensate, and work late just to appear “on top of it,” until it all crashes. It’s not about competence—it’s about trying to function in systems that were never built for our brains. Does anyone else feel like they’re constantly trying to outrun their own mind just to survive in the workplace?

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You’re not alone. I think many of us walk a fine line between thriving and burning out because we don’t have the support we need. Sustainable work means finding environments that value neurodiversity instead of punishing it.

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Gosh, are you me? I feel like I’m dying inside a little more each day, all despite killing myself to try and live up to the reputation/standard everyone expects from me knowing I can not only do the job, but I can do it better - WHEN, I can function “normally”😞

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Also, stop showing people your 100%. Let everyone think your best is 80%

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This is what I’m trying to learn how to do now, and slowly pull back alongside starting to set some boundaries

Problem is it may be too late for where I am now, because I feel like it’s only causing tension regarding deadlines and deliverables, and my boss is seeing it as a performance decline instead

No- I’m telling you there isn’t enough hours in the day to keep going like this, nor am I any longer willing to continue giving double the output than reasonable for the hours vs getting back into the gym

Yep, same. By year two I’m basically waiting for the other shoe to drop.

At the same time, I’m running myself ragged, trying to perform work, getting resentful that I have to put in so much energy.

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Yeah, resonation ^

I gradually keep lowering my standards for my professional performance as well as for my fulfillment in personal life.

And still, I am more and more burnt out every year

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I would like to do that, but it would require significantly lowering professional standards further, to the point where I would worry about my job security.

I'm already just hanging in there

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