Lateraled to another v20 firm 2.5 months ago and found out I am 7 weeks pregnant. Will this be frowned upon? 5th year associate

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Don’t let worrying about work distract from such great news! I think as long as you come back after leave and have your work in good shape for someone to cover during leave, that’s all they can ask for. Don’t stress, pregnancy is hard enough without worrying about things you can’t control

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This also happened to me. They were probably upset, but got full parental leave. However, when I came back from parental leave I was told I’m technically behind 🤣 so yeh… but in any case, don’t worry about what they think. Just do what’s best for you

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People will always have opinions (good and bad) about your life choices. Find out what your maternity leave options are at the firm and whether you have to negotiate leave since some require you to be there for a year before accessing benefits. Wishing you a safe and healthy pregnancy!

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Idk if anyone else is frowning but I'm smiling big for you! Congrats!

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Congratulations!!!

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Everyone’s so kind! 🥹❤️ this helped a lot!

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Congrats!! This happened to me too, roughly same class year and timing. I don’t know if anyone was upset; maybe they were but they were gracious and it was all fine. My advice would be to figure out a solid plan for childcare support including backup care so you can transition back smoothly. Oh and take a vacation while you can. ☺️

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Who cares!? This is soooo beautiful!!! Enjoy it! You’ll be just fine. - mom of 4; 2 of which were born in my 3rd to 5th years of practice. Give your best and let them think whatever ❤️

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Follow up question —- I’ve been working from home because of nausea and fatigue, when is it appropriate to speak to HR and inform partners?

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First time I let partners know at 12 weeks and HR a little earlier. I’m pregnant again, I let HR know last week and will tell the partners next week (I’ll be 12 weeks then).

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