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Don't fall for the sunk-cost fallacy: the phenomenon whereby a person is reluctant to abandon a strategy or course of action because they have invested heavily in it, even when it is clear that abandonment would be more beneficial.
I’ve spoken to my boss about it and the lack of empathy in her reaction was a little sociopathic. It’s clear that she won’t change but I just don’t want to start over somewhere new but I know I need to. Anyone deal with anything similar?
Everyone knows. She’s well protected. I need to leave.
As someone who went through this and endured it for five years, please value your mental health and search elsewhere. You're worth it.
I’d start taking dates and times with examples. We have to fight against toxicity!
Unless you think she’ll get canned or leave soon, get out and don’t look back. I worked under a toxic boss for way too long and regret it.
I had a boss like this for a time- she ended up getting promoted to another department 5 years ago and the new department is just now starting to fight it
As someone who has gone through this, I can tell you I felt like the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders after I quit. The likelihood of this person changing behavior is very small or non existent. Go work somewhere else where you will be valued, and treated with the respect you deserve. No job and no amount of money is worth putting up with abuse.
Hello! I’m so sorry you have to go through that as I know how that feels. I experienced something similar but when this happened to me, it was actually the CEO who treated me this way. I regretted that I tolerated it which took a tool on my mental health. Although, when I saw another female employee treated the same way in front of me and other employees, I reported our CEO to HR immediately. HR was hesitant to take action for obvious reason and so did that employee. She eventually quit. I wanted to quit but I didn’t. I went into therapy for mental health issue. There’s a gap here that you may wonder how I survived. The CEO had me report to his son who barely reads or answer emails, barely shows up to meetings and other business needs but I held our department together and I guess, our CEO left alone during this time. Couple years later, he did the same thing for something I didn’t do wrong. This time, I reported the incident to HR and attached the previous report I did for another employee. Only this time, he is no longer the CEO. So HR took it to the new CEO. I’m still with the company. I’ve decided to not leave unless it’s my own terms as I realized I’m not the problem here. My choices were to either give up my job or stand up for myself and to fight for my rights to a safe and healthy working environment. I’ve decided the latter as I have 50/50 chance and the other 50% was what I would be forced to do anyway to preserve my mental health.
Thanks everyone for your responses. I updated my resume today and going to start the search!
Went through this for years at multiple organizations. My mental health took a serious toll and so did my teams, because I would end up taking things out on them. It wasn't fair to them at all and is one of my biggest regrets as a leader.
Get out now and find somewhere less toxic. It's worth it, I promise.
I’m beginning to wonder if there are places less toxic. Seen this at all the firms I’ve been at, just never as bad as it is currently.