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Hi Mentors, seek your advice. I have done civil engineering + Project Management. Currently I'm working with project management team as planning engineer in a real estate firm.
Now I am willing to switch into Consulting domain but not getting any leads, also daily I'm applying n numbers of company on LinkedIn, Naukri and Indeed but not a single light of hope I'm seeing.
Can anyone please guide me, how should I approach to a company. It'll be a great help indeed Jacobs CDM Smith JPM
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Can someone please refer me to KPMG?
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My wife and I are a consulting couple as well. She is a bit further along than I am though (started 3 years before me), and I am happy to take a step back. Succeeding in consulting is rewarding, but having a happy family is 10x more rewarding.
Basically, I'm just being forced to figure out what I want to do when I grow up (i.e. in industry). I was never a consulting lifer though, so the transition is a bit easier for me.
If it’s about working late and making it to networking events you could possibly switch off on nights. For example you both agree that on mondays you work late and your spouse comes home early, etc... that way you both have the capacity to stay in the game.
As stated above... your children are only little once and your career will always be there. Maybe not at the pace you were hoping for but the bond and happiness you will experience with your child far outweighs a job!
Wife and I both senior managers, with 2 kids in daycare. Trust me, it is a slog and can be outright crazy at times. Lots of things need to work out for both to be on a decent career path and have some family life. Having a local gig for both is a must. Work wise, youll have to figure out project hours with your team, after work events can get tricky... one way, is attend by seniority of your attendees :) Family wise, there is a sacrifice. you'll have about 4 waking hours with the kids on weekdays, its about what you make of it in that time. Is it worth it ? For us, we still figuring it out..
^ Yes. Agreed.
I don’t think it’s possible for both parents to be in consulting unless you completely outsource the raising of your kid to someone else. If you actually want your kid to know they’re loved, IMO someone needs to dial it back and focus on the kiddos.
If you need to work late to be successful, you are approaching your career and defining success in a wrong way. And you can also be successful even if you don’t go to all or any of those late night and evening networking events. Let your skill and capability dictate your reputation, not by meeting and greeting people through networking
There may be other obstacles for you like travel commitments that can deter you from picking the desired project but I don’t think you have that issue yet.
But like everyone said, if there comes a time when I have to pick family or career, I would always choose family.
OP - sounds like you are not in the right team. Regardless of kid or not, after hour collaboration should not be the expectations here after 4pm, worse case 6pm if client demand it. 10-4 should be the time to collaborate and the rest should be up to team member to go off and do their own work, whether they pick early or late
But that’s just my opinion and how I work with my team though.
@manager 1 you couldn't be more right.
Take a step back and really interrogate the lives of the folks you look up to at work. Most are failures when you take an aggregated look.
It is absolutely terrifying that with out care their fate can easily by mine own.
My spouses career is racing ahead..I'm not complaining but feel bad for myself once in a while which triggers unnecessary issues. Any consulting couples out there..what do u do?
It’s certainly possible, but you’ll miss out on raising your child. You’d have to hire better help...maybe a live in nanny or an Au Pair
I prefer Nanny when my baby starts to talk, so till then It's day care. But the problem with that is I miss networking events, I miss late evening meetings etc..while my spouse does everything till 7-8pm befor reaching home. Only good thing is we don't travel and client is 10 miin drive from home and day care 5 min from office.
It's all very stressful
Agree with kpmg1. If you are both big 4 you should be able to afford help.
Affording help isn't a problem...It's just tough balancing everything..it appears one person absolutely has to step back or completely ignore the kid which is cruel and something which I do not want to do
SM1- figuring out with my team has become a pain.. they all come in late and stay late..I step in at 7 30am wanting to leave at 5pm..but my team frowns at this. They come at 10am and stay till 8pm. I tried reasoning out on this but it didn't work. My promotion was denied Last year saying I don't collaborate with team and that I'm not in office. Even my PPED comes to office at 10am and leave late in evening.
It's utter rubbish that of all things, I face problem because of 'hours'. I also connect from home within an hour of leaving office just to "collaborate"
Just not working. I can't even talk tough or take tough stance because this is the only client in home town, hence no travel.
It's stressful :(
There is no good solution. I am sure there is something other to do than consulting!
I’ve got three kids now. My wife used to work but cut back her hours after our first and stopped entirely after our second. She still wants to go back to work eventually once the kids are all in school but when they’re little it’s too much I think. In the end, there’s no right answers though because it’s about your priorities and your values. What works for someone may not work for another Good luck OP hope it works out.
Thank you. I understand the limitations. Was curious on how others made it work.
If I was you I would come in at 7:30am, leave at 5:00pm and take the “meeting expectations” rating at year end. You would be putting your family first and nothing wrong with that. I have been there and done it. Career won’t progress as good as it could but once your kid is a little older you will indeed have more time for work.
Op that is sad to hear, how your team/leadership is not understanding of your situation. Is there some leader/team in your org that is a little more adjusting that you could work with? Unless you do.. I agree it's tough to make it work