My brother & fiancée have asked my daughters to be flower girls in their wedding. I just received an email from her that the kids are only to stay through cocktail hour and then they’ve arranged child care at a separate venue. Am I overreacting to think it’s presumptuous for her 1) not talk to me about it directly and 2) think that I’ll be ok with caretakers I’ve never met caring for my kids?(esp during a pandemic when we’ve already said we may bow out due to infection rates?)

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While I may understand your concern, I do see the side that seems considerate of your brother and fiancee to arrange that for you since you are likely having to spend in dresses etc and could be a stress factor. Im sure their intention is to facilitate and easier and calmer environment for you guys to have fun. Surely you can talk to them and make sure who they are hiring are vaccinated and have negative covid tests etc to put ur mind at ease

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I’m concerned about the separate venue part. I wouldn’t want my kids with strangers and at a distance that makes me or my kids uncomfortable.

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I don’t think you’re overreacting. She probably thought she was being helpful and organized while also getting the point across that it’s an adult only reception. It’s not how I would do it, but still. But I don’t trust just anyone watching my kid, so I get your concerns - especially in a pandemic!!
I think it’s fine to follow up with her to ask questions and make sure you’re comfortable with it.

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Sounds like a dream evening to me! But yeah they should get a gut check and sell it to you first and not make assumptions that it’s ok. The separate venue is also where I got tripped up.

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