How do you deal with trying to live and establish a life of your own but also making sure to grateful and aware of the sacrifices your family has made to get you to where you are now?

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You've probably heard this a lot already, but you gotta do you. In the end, it's your life not theirs and I think it's a common thing for Asian parents to guilt trip you for thinking otherwise.

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wow.

I understand but like D1 said, you still need to establish some boundaries. Just understand your priorities, spend time with friends and have a life. However, carve out some time with family so that they know you love and appreciate their sacrifices. Set goals like at least once a month, etc.

you're the author of your own book. not them. show gratitude and appreciate what they've done, but do what's best for you. otherwise, you'll end up resenting them down the road if you dont and aren't where you want to be (in life in general).

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