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At first point itself your husband should not have left the job as in Indian society jobless males are never respected and secondly male ego gets hurt which seems in this case as well when you are asking him to look for other hospital option a part from apollo. You are not wrong in your assumption that 15 lakhs is just a starting point of expense and can extent Mukti folds. You should definitely keep that into consideration.
If you father in law has a property and your husband has siblings. Then you should first consider to sell that and use that amount first in his treatment. As even written will can be challenged considering current medical situation. That’s practical that you should not exhaust your savings when you have other options in hand to cover expenses as your son future is also your responsibility and you cannot loose everything in your hand as it will lead more mental pressure in your life and you you may not even be able to perform well in your job.
These old generation never listens to everyone. If they have to smoke and drink they will do even without considering what impact it will cause to their families both financially and mentally apart from their own health.
Many parents considers their son like 24/7 care taker, health insurance and retirement plan. They don’t consider that their son has its own family to take care.
You guys certainly need to take care of him but be practical in your decision. If other options are there use them first instead of loosing everything what’s in your hand.
However, I want to check other hospitals. If other hospitals offer similar options with better cost, want to try it out too.
My husband feels that his father won't feel mentally depressed in Apollo, best treatment and starts arguing. He thinks his father will be depressed looking at other cancer patients in those hospitals. But I can't accept it. The treatment may not just end with 15 lakhs. It is a long term process. No insurance too. I have my own father, his father \ mother, my son's education to take care. Can we afford all in future. I know it's hard for him too. At times, I feel I am not taking care of my health and just running in a rat race. His father have property. He did everything to both his daughters. He always says he will write a will on his son's name but never did. If parents doesn't trust to write even a will, shouldn't we feel the same considering the long road ahead. None of his sisters gonna share the medical expense. Anyways, I don't need their property as I am gonna earn till I can. Maybe i just expect only empathy or acknowledgement from them. Just it hurts as don't even acknowledge the efforts to earn that money. My husband is a great man. I don't know whether I am the one who is overthinking. Definitely, I gonna spend for the entire medical expense. When my own friends and relatives share their experiences of preferring other good hospitals considering the budget, I couldn't resist these thoughts.
His father smokes tobacco excessively and drinks alcohol everyday. I warned him many a times, even asked my son to advise him. He said nobody should ask him to stop. As he works hard in farm, his only enjoyment is to smoke and drink. Urinary bladder's main cause is tobacco 75%. Though he is a good person, I feel we are paying for his mistakes.
I'm truly sorry to hear about your father-in-law's diagnosis. It's a blessing that it was detected before spreading to other organs, and your commitment to his well-being is admirable. Cancer treatment can be emotionally and financially overwhelming, but your dedication and proactive approach are already a big step in the right direction.
If you're open to exploring integrative and holistic options, I highly recommend considering HIIMS Hospital, Meerut, which offers Ayurvedic cancer treatment under the guidance of Acharya Manish Ji. Many patients have found hope and healing through a combination of Ayurveda, Panchakarma, naturopathy, personalized diet plans, and lifestyle changes here.
What makes HIIMS different is the focus on strengthening the body’s natural healing systems. The treatment doesn’t just target the disease—it works on overall rejuvenation and detoxification. Several bladder cancer patients and those with other cancers have reported remarkable improvements in quality of life and overall health after undergoing therapy here.
Since you're already willing to invest significantly in his treatment, you may want to explore how Ayurveda can complement or even reduce the need for aggressive treatments, depending on the case. The team at HIIMS Meerut is experienced in working with critical conditions and offers guidance every step of the way—from medical detox to nutritional support and mental wellness.
Wishing you and your family strength, healing, and clarity in making the best decision for your father-in-law.
If you want, you can also reach out to HIIMS Hospital Meerut directly for a consultation or second opinion
Appreciate the author lady .. 🙏🙏 it's very hard to come across someone who is having a good heart like this ..
The author father in law property must be sold to fund for the authors father in law treatment ..
Author lady must realize she has a duty towards her son , herself and her husband also .. I don't want to comment on author husband not working.. 🙏🙏.
Am pretty sure the authors sisters in law never help their own father .. it's disgusting that some men and women are utterly careless towards their own responsibility..