My husband says he doesn't care about his birthday. I think it's because as a kid his family never really celebrated it and so it's his coping mechanism to "not care". So I try to make his birthday as fun as possible and prioritize him and do whatever he wants.

Do you like your birthday? If no, then why not?

I just wanted to take a quick moment to say that you are all doing a great job with this ridiculous, unprecedented juggling act of trying to be a parent, teacher, lawyer and human. Hang in there!

What's the hardest part of being a working parent in law? My wife and I are considering trying to get pregnant.

Hi Chicago - just moved here from the UK (via 7 years in Germany) and looking to make some great new friends.

Moved to River North and into trivia nights, most sports, movies etc and would love to find some people open to adding a city newbie to the group!

42m if that matters 🤷🏻‍♂️😁

Anyone else sickened by Amy’s use of her black kids as props? You didn’t have to tell us that those two black kids were adopted, but way to make them feel different.

I am done trying to pretend everything is fine at work. The higher ups on the team kept asking if I’m doing anything fun for the weekend during video calls. I felt the pressure to make something up but I just can’t. I’ve been struggling with depression, loneliness, anxiety with immigration and the fact that I might be out of work soon cuz my visa is expiring. I’m thousands of miles away from my family and I just want everything to stop. But when my manager kept asking in front of everyone am I

Does anyone know if we can reimburse expenses for items listed in Wageworks while on maternity?

I know we cannot expense phone/internet/ commuter benefit as I am not actively doing work.

However, for other items that fall under wage works reimbursement, I couldn’t find anything in writing yet.

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

Out of curiosity, how much $ did you start making before buying a pet?

Haven’t seen bf in over 3 months due to COVID. Lately, he’s been pushing to see me but I don’t feel comfortable because he hasn’t been quarantining. He makes it sound like if I’m not willing to go see him might as well breakup. Any advice?

Any tips for organizing a bedroom, closet, dresser & bathroom? My teen has IADHD, and low executive functioning. Her room looks like a land mine. Clean clothes are mixed in with dirty, her desk is a disaster, she won’t let go of clothes she’s outgrown, drawers are open with clothes hanging out. A therapist said to close her door if we don’t want to see it but it’s more than that. She needs this important life skill & I don’t know how to help. Easier to organize w/o her but that’s not a solution.

Love is patient and kind.
Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud. 
Love is not rude, it is not selfish, and it cannot be made angry easily.
Love does not remember wrongs done against it.  
Love is never happy when others do wrong, but it is always happy with the truth.  
Love never gives up on people. It never stops trusting, never loses hope, and never quits. 
Love will never end.
Humbled, convicted, but thankful. Our Father, Jesus and the Holy Spirit love us this way!

Have people gotten their bonus’ prorated in a year they were on parental leave? Any hunches to tell if it was more less than a straight prorate?

What are we supposed to do with our kids during Winter break when school is closed for TWO WEEKS and we need to hit our billables?

Had a panic attack last night - my first in about 3 months. That knot of anxiousness in my stomach won’t go away and I feel unable to “unclench”. At home with family and they keep saying things like j

Planning on telling my parents about my white boyfriend this weekend…. Any tips or words or motivational words please

What is a good all around first art activity for Kindergarten through 6 th grades that can help me get to know the kids?

What big 4 have the best maturity and paternity leave policies?

The wife, baby and I are moving to Greenville SC in the spring.

Would love to hear anyone’s experiences about the city and where you’d suggest we start our house search!

Married men of this group,
What advice would you like to give to the younger generation who are single/about to get married?

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

How's the wlb here?

What should be the salary expectations? If someone is doing first switch? Yoe - 4.6?

Any recs for Belize? Going around early November and staying at Victoria House

When I interviewed they told me I was not required to recruit but now I’m required to upload 50 “My Relationships” every certain amount of months where other recruiters can technically go after my contacts and recruit them and also am expected to invite potential networking to events and through the beaker model. Is this required? I feel forced and I’ve only been here for less than a month and I’m not loving this approach.

Anyone else have a formatting pet peeve and get annoyed when people don’t have a blank first column and row in tabs? I.e headers/data in cell A1

My first manager told me this, and I’ve followed it to a T since.

Which field of science do you think is underfunded, and why?

Any word on layoffs at JPM?

How many annual leave days do you get? (I’m in the UK and a company i’m considering offers 25 days off a year)

I got the mail where i need to upload the document for processing.but in mindtree home page i am not able to see any upload option.could you please help guys.should i sent the document in that mail?

Anyone else feels that the Talent team at @Mindtree is sshiittyy? They don't give us updates after interviews and hang us in limbo. They don't have the courtesy to respond to messages, calls or emails. Can someone suggest how to highlight this?

Hi Fishes I am in a complex situation, please help me out..

I got an offer with TCS and initially selected joining date as Jan 2.. but current org released me in 1 month instead of 3 months.. I asked TCS HR and others for early Onboarding but they didn't respond well..

After that I got one offer and joined immediately. But now I don't like to work here as I have to go to office all 5 days mandatorily, also role is slightly new to me.

How can join in TCS on the selected date ?
Any possibility?

With so much uncertainty in the economy and waves of layoffs that have hit tech especially hard... do we think there's really such a thing as a recession-proof job anymore if you're not an "essential worker"?

Can I pray for someone this evening?

Does devops have a support work too?Like supporting azure,k8,docker?What do the support guy usually do?

Hello Fishes,

I have 2.2 YOE in Java development ( Spring boot, Rest API, MySql)

Can I get few referrals?

Thanks in advance

Anyone with experience working for/with AVIA? While they are a bit more niche, working on Digital Transformation, curious on thoughts about them.

Will I be eligible for salary hike and progressions this year (2022) if I joined on 4ty July , 2022 in KGS ?

Does Strategy& have a Fintech practice?

What's the best way Calm app has helped you?

Question: do guys like glasses on women?

I’ve always enjoyed being by myself, but truth be told, I am beginning to feel lonely. No amount of exercising, watching TV shows, apps distract me from this feeling anymore. I don’t know what to do with myself.

Going back to work tomorrow after a 2 week long vacation. Scared to check my emails 😭😭😭

Kanye back at it again. This is more entertaining than workplace gossip 🤣

Can someone link me to the confessions pt 2 bowl 🤪🤪🤪

We need a Late Night Confessions bowl

El Chavo del Ocho is better than Seinfeld. But you are not ready for this conversation.

How many of you do some bicep curls before going out on a date?

I just want to make enough money to afford a facelift on top of my regular bills 🥲

Rant: my boyfriend is so annoying with this diet! I GET IT. You want to eat healthy! But when you have your friends at our place every other weekend they order pizza and you devour most of 2 boxes! But when I want pizza or wings or burgers I have to hear a whole spiel. “Can we pick something healthier?” “You can order ___ but can I choose something else on the menu?” “I don’t knowwww” like MY GOD. Then if I order something for me he wants half or bites! Sick of it!!!

Worst migraine ever. Still got it since Wednesday night

All my six-figure salary consultant friends are ranting about how poor they feel right now because their IRAs/portfolios are down. Think the people in this industry need to take time to volunteer or engage with some tougher parts of town and understand that by virtue of even having investment accounts, that they’re more financially safe than at least 50% of America. Sad to see

My lease ends by end of May and I will be out of town for June and maybe the first 2 weekz of July. Does it make sense to put my stuff in a storage and save that months rent or should I move to a new apartment and eat the rent (assume $1800/mo) for those 6 weeks?

My uncle I met a week ago suddenly died. He hid his heart condition from his wife, my aunt. He was having tea in the morning when he had a stroke. She did not have a last word or consider the possibility that he’d pass away so suddenly and soon. She is beating herself up over how he left and they didn’t have a chance to talk that morning. Fishes, sharing this so you call your loved ones today and not take people for granted.

What are some good bowls besides this one?

does dating or social apps work or are we all fearful of each other?

My friend’s dad was a firefighter during 9/11 who died very young because of lung cancer. He was one of those who were denied coverage. She was just having a really hard time this week. Her boss knows this and told her last Friday with a straight face that she’s sulking. Some of these VC people man.

New boss is way too serious and can’t take a joke. What to do?

I’m so grumpy about new campus hires. Sometimes I’m judgmental (your hobby is “working on your golf swing,” really?). Sometimes I’m just exhausted by the worried earnestness. Sometimes I’m amazed that they seem to have zero useful skills, yet they’ll be making 150k easily in the not too distant future.