My husband says he doesn't care about his birthday. I think it's because as a kid his family never really celebrated it and so it's his coping mechanism to "not care". So I try to make his birthday as fun as possible and prioritize him and do whatever he wants.

Do you like your birthday? If no, then why not?

My last therapist keeps coming up in my mind. I left her when I moved to a new area before COVID dug in and frankly it felt like leaving a girlfriend. She also disclosed in the final session that she was a member of AA and knew several of the people I occasionally discussed from the rooms. Her knowledge of the program certainly built trust with me early on, but it has been two years. I discussed it with my current therapist but she’s still in there. Any advice?

I’ve always been a big saver minimum 15% to maxing out my 401k since I graduated college. I’m married to someone who thinks 6% is enough and likes $$$ cars. Other than the cars, they dont really spend money. For the married 🐠, how do you have the conversation with them that what they are doing isn’t enough? I try to guide them and say you want the $$$ cars but the salary you have won’t get there and you’re going to have to find a job that gets them the salary…. Then the fight starts.

Working at a hospital with a million programs and services. When is developing an independent brand for a group justified, and when should it remain part of the parent brand?

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

I have an estranged relationship with my sister. I haven’t had a relationship with her in 13+ years, and haven’t even seen her in about 5 years. We had a really bad falling out and I never really carried for her as a person. But for some reason I feel an immense guilt for not wanting a relationship, simply because of this convoluted idea of family and sticking together no matter what. Anyone else have this issue? How do I go about making peace with someone I don’t want nothing to do with?

My uncle I met a week ago suddenly died. He hid his heart condition from his wife, my aunt. He was having tea in the morning when he had a stroke. She did not have a last word or consider the possibility that he’d pass away so suddenly and soon. She is beating herself up over how he left and they didn’t have a chance to talk that morning. Fishes, sharing this so you call your loved ones today and not take people for granted.

How to leverage personal connections for personal gain?

I am a 2nd year and my spouse is a higher up in engineering in big tech. He has some (but not a lot of) sway in outside counsel and could make some intros to in house counsel.

My firm will gladly use my connections for their own gain, so I’m making sure that if/when this situation comes, I take full advantage of it.

Looking for tips on short term and long term strategy.

Why doesn't my wife get that it's just me and the great dane now. She making this awkward wanting some room in the bed.

Question to immigrants with parents overseas. Anyone has experience getting their parents approved for tourist visa while immigration petition for parent is pending (I am US citizen, moms case is slowly moving and I desperately need her come visit). She’s had 15+ years on tourist visas but worry we’ll be denied this time due to “immigration case in progress”. Appreciate any tips and anecdotes.

Have you walked away from somebody you loved? And why?

I feel stuck. This job is hard. Feels like lots of people piling on while I’m away from home and my SO. It would be nice to feel more supported and have less toxic clients.

I tried asking this in my own bowl with no responses, so seeing if other consultants have run into this situation. I’m on parental leave, I got an offer for another firm, great opportunity and pay. How does one go about a resignation mid-leave when you would start the new job before the leave ends? Two weeks notice or just say I am not returning effective the day of the new job? Any things to consider besides potentially repaying the employer healthcare premium?

Pakistani people-born and bought up in Pakistan. Anyone married to an Indian muslim girl or guy?
How different were cultures?
How did your folks and extended family react?

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

I'm panicking. We just adopted a 12 week old kitten. My 12 year old cat is pissed at me. My dog wants to be friends with the cats, but the cats are less than enthused. I'm keeping the new kitten in the bathroom when they can't all be supervised. What was I thinking? We can't give the kitten back because my toddler is in love. Please tell me it will be OK.

Do you think it is easier to overcome cheating in a relationship that has or does not have children involved? Listening to an interesting podcast and would love to know peoples take on the topic

Any millennials here worried about their parents retirement? My parents are set financially but I’m worried about their lack of hobbies and social life. They watch a lot of news, politics, stock market, and sports. However not much more than that. I feel I’d be fine with that if they were in their 80s or older but they’re early 60s. Anyone succeed in getting their parents to an activity filled retirement?

Has anyone found roles in Big 4 or industry that allowed more work life balance when their kids were young without damaging future career trajectory? I'm a partner with young kids and feel like I'm missing out on too much of their lives. Wishful, but my dream job would have a lighter workload in terms of time and pressure for the next ~5 years, but not set me back too much (or at all) when the kids are older and tired of me in a few years and I'm ready to be back at work full force.

Anyone have experience in bringing over a blood relatives children as a dependent into usa? If so, which visa ? And what’s the process to follow

If a person have PepsiCo offer letter along with Canada visa , does PepsiCo allows to accommodate job at PepsiCo Canada?

December is typically slow due to EOY/holidays. How to maintain momentum when losing motivation and don’t want to stall until Jan?

Hi folks, I am working with a few friends on a fintech idea. I opted to build the marketing roadmapping strategy for the soft launch/prototype phase as I want to learn about the field. Any guidance where should I start? Any guidance, books, topics will be helpful 😊

Accenture- Multiple opportunities for QA tester, Business analysts, automated and manual testing, functional Test Planning.
Experience 2-12 years
Dm me.

Hey fishes,How much package we can ask for 5.3 years of experience?

My wife is a Software engineer - QA with 2 Yoe, now we are thinking to move to Canada, can someone please guide us on which 2 year course can she pick (for student visa), is data science related course a wise decision? Or how to find a QA related PG program.
Preferably in Victoria, British Columbia

What can help me (2 YOE at B4) get an interview at MBB besides a referral? Certain skills, certain qualifications, GMAT score, or something else?

First gen immigrant getting case of impostor syndrome/nerves with upcoming BCG interview. Any folks want to share advice that might help? Would really appreciate it; thanks :)

A friend of mine applied for a job at Bain and he said part of application requested his SAT scores! What’s the point of asking for his test scores? He has a degree.

Is New York even worth it for advertising? I just looked for apartments and almost spit out my water on the prices for such bad quality.

Hi friends,

Any update on work from office for Cognizant?

Thanks in advance!

Hey fishes,
Need your genuine help...!!!
I am eagerly looking for a referral in strategy consulting/manager profile, currently working in automobile sector as a business strategy manager.
If required ready to skill up myself in any technology/domain.
Please help.

RSM is hiring across all tax and accounting roles and levels, as well as in non-accounting innovation and technology roles. DM me for referrals.

I'm on a beach in Florida and a guy walks up to me and is like "you're from Texas, huh?" And I'm like "yeah, how'd you know"? And then I realize how he knew...

What are pre-MBA pay bands at MBB?

Received less salary this month also. (Same amount as last month)
Why is this happening? Too much tax 🥵

Interested in eventually exiting into wellness tech.... what are the best consulting firms to start at?

My face is so asymmetrical and I’m having trouble coming to terms with that - feel ugly af

My back hurts so I’ve been laying on the floor looking at Fishbowl all day instead of doing my job.

Anyone have any good office chair recos for sedentary potatoes that wfh?

I have an estranged relationship with my sister. I haven’t had a relationship with her in 13+ years, and haven’t even seen her in about 5 years. We had a really bad falling out and I never really carried for her as a person. But for some reason I feel an immense guilt for not wanting a relationship, simply because of this convoluted idea of family and sticking together no matter what. Anyone else have this issue? How do I go about making peace with someone I don’t want nothing to do with?

I’ve always enjoyed being by myself, but truth be told, I am beginning to feel lonely. No amount of exercising, watching TV shows, apps distract me from this feeling anymore. I don’t know what to do with myself.

My uncle I met a week ago suddenly died. He hid his heart condition from his wife, my aunt. He was having tea in the morning when he had a stroke. She did not have a last word or consider the possibility that he’d pass away so suddenly and soon. She is beating herself up over how he left and they didn’t have a chance to talk that morning. Fishes, sharing this so you call your loved ones today and not take people for granted.

Friend is hosting a party where I will only know the host. Presumably host will be busy with others. How do I mingle and make conversation with a bunch of people who know each other?

Ugh. I was stuck on a call and forgot to buy my Powerball tickets online. Now I’m hoping there’s no winner so I could win on Wednesday. I could’ve been an almost billionaire.

Yesterday I made a blanket fort with my husband and we watched a movie and ate ice cream. Yes, it was awesome.

Anyone else feel like quitting their jobs to start an OF page?

My latest LinkedIn annoyance is the people posting about their kids wearing their company swag or seeing their company logo/name out and about (as in sponsorships).

Gf said Nick Fury from Avengers series is Samuel L Jackson’s most iconic role and I whole heartedly disagreed and said Jules from Pulp Fiction is his most iconic role. Are there others that think this too?

I went to a networking event today, but deep down I want to marry a prince/ trust fund only child and be a stay at home TikTok wife/mum .

Bummed dragon flight is being released after thanksgiving break. Now I gotta take PTO on Tuesday 🤷.. oh well

If you had a choice, would you live in Chicago or NYC?

I love milk with pizza or steak 🤤 just had milk with pizza last night. So delicious

Several years ago a gay male acquaintance said he didn't date Black guys. It made me bristle but I was not surprised. Now he's married to one. I feel in a way vindicated every time I see his loving social media posts with his Black husband of like 5 years or so now.

How did he get over his apparent aversion to Black men enough to go and marry one? Where would he be if he hadn't had a change of heart?

I wish there were a tactful way to remind him he said that and watch as he eats his words...

Invite code for all things kink and single consultants?