My manager accused me of not being proactive enough, in reality I have been trying my best to make my self available and reaching out constantly. The team lead is unresponsive; my manager keeps saying that I should’ve brought up the issue to him earlier so he could help me. But when I challenge the issues, he implies that I am the issue. Currently in the process of planning to leave this team, should I confront to him that he is the issue.

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Did he give you concrete steps as to what you could do to be more proactive?

Also document document document and be sure to send copies to your personal email.

I wouldn’t recommend confronting him… odds are it’ll just make him insecure and he’ll try to make your life miserable.

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Move on and don’t confront. Leopards don’t change their spots.

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just interview and leave. you can meet with him and document but it’s been my experience that it’s better to abort.

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i’ve worked til midnight at a japanese bank for a thankless managers and i bolted after awhile and grabbed something from linked in since i didn’t wan to pay for cab’s every night with young kids too. it took awhile for me to reposition and you
might lose footing as it’s a bad environment bit nothing replaces character and peace of mine and self worth. i’m 64 yo and very relevant so trust me don’t be sabotaged by crappy manager or peers. move on and don’t look back you’ll feel better.

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You can’t teach an old dog new tricks if he’s not willing to learn. Don’t burn a bridge by confronting, just go.

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