Need advice. Met a man who i am very into. He is so my type personality wise, emotionally, physically and sexually AND has his life together and a great job. Feelings are mutual. Issue is he lives in another city and he is recently out of a 6y relationship. He has never been to any party before and now he has fomo and is traveling to every pride event. How do we progress from here. I just dont want to be hurt

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If he’s not ready to commit, you’re only going to hurt yourself. I’d back away completely until he comes around. If you try to have a half relationship it typically doesn’t go well.

I’ve been there a couple of times and had lengthy half-relationships with guys. Some of the most painful times in my life

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He probably needs time to party and sow his wild oats. Stay in touch and see how things go. Date a bit. Party together. But don't make him the center of your world; there's a meaningful chance he meets someone else who may not be as great as you, but is at least nearby/convenient, which is hard to beat.

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As M1 said, let him go through his party/hoe phase and get it out of his system. Stay in touch but pump the brakes a bit and don’t jump into anything until you feel he’s ready.

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You don’t need drama. Just take your time with him and enjoy

I'm going thru this myself w/ a local woman (I'm lez) who finalized her divorce last year from a 10-yr het marriage. I've been examining my anxieties around falling too hard too fast for dates I barely know. I brought up the topic of seeing others to her, and she let me go to avoid hurting me as she preferred to see multiple folks simultaneously. I'm realizing I'm only hurting myself. I might reach out to her again once my feelings aren't as intense as it is currently.

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