Parental advice needed.

4 year old told me he was pinched by his teacher at his Islamic school. Details in comments.

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You need to reach out to the school leadership and schedule a meeting discussing your concerns. If true, this is not the first time. If it’s not true, then that’s fine. Better to be safe than sorry.

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Thank you for caring about your son! All children need is for their parents to believe them, especially when it matters. If your child doesn’t have a strong history of lying, I works at the very least investigate

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My son walked out of school today really sad and said he was put in timeout today for talking. So we brushed it off and basically told him that he needs to be quiet when the teacher tells him and that he needs to listen to his teachers.

But later at night I was putting him to bed and he randomly goes like "daddy, my teacher hurt me". So I ask what do you mean. And he repeats that his teacher hurt him. So I asked how did she hurt you? And he said she pinched me. I asked him where and he points at his right forearm.

So I hug him and tell him if anyone hurts him that he needs to tell me and I'll take care of it. So I go speak with my wife and tell her about it and we call him to our room. She asks him what he did in school today and what happened, without specifically asking if he got hit. And he tells her the same exact story and points to the same spot he told me he got pinched

My wife specifically grabbed his arm how someone would grab it if they were leading him away, and asked if it was like that. He said no and pinched his forearm with his fingers to show how it was done.

I'm trying to figure out whether he's creating a scenario in his head. Or if she maybe grabbed him by the arm to lead him to timeout and he associated that with getting pinched. But I'm trying to figure out how to approach it without him facing backlash from his teachers.

I knwlow kids can definitely over exaggerate. But I also feel like if he felt the need to bring something like that up to me randomly 6 hours later then there has to be something there.

It just sucks because he's ecstatic going to school everyday. Literally runs in and runs out with a smile on his face. So I don't want him associating it with negativity and I also don't want to tarnish his teacher's attitude towards him if I hit them with an accusation.

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WOW. OP I am so sorry to hear that but thank you for taking this so seriously. As a parent it is our job to worry and make sure that things are going the way that they should for our children. I would definitely be calling the school and finding out exactly what happened.

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