Do you ever get over an ex you loved?

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The end of a relationship can truly feel like a death. Stages of grieving and all. And like a death, the memory of that person doesn’t completely go away; it just softens. The pain gets less intense and eventually dulls. But the memory and imprint of them will still be there, just in a less significant way. And their role in your life will get replaced by other things - lovers, loved ones, hobbies.

Give yourself time and space to grieve, but also don’t ruminate. Be kind to yourself. And remember that the person you loved and to whom you gave part of yourself to likely doesn’t exist anymore. That was a moment in time, and they’ve changed from this too.

Hope you find healing. ❤️

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Yes, usually with a lot of time and ~lovers~ in between (and sometimes therapy) !

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This is my experience too. You can also move and take up a couple new hobbies to make the time go by even faster

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I believe that you never really forget someone you loved.

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Yes in time but it doesn’t erase my memories of them, and I have been able to remember the good times for what they were and cherish those memories while building new ones with new people. One doesn’t need to forget / stop thinking about past lovers to get over them.

Yes, but takes time and you never truly forget them. That said, the best way to get over a man is to get under another one - Betty White

Yes, thank god

Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

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