Question out of curiosity, how many of y'all are parents? Do you find yourself getting burned out more quickly than usual? No, it's just me?

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I got to the finish line. My daughter is a BSEE developing software and my son a MSCE now working. Don’t miss out on the best legacy of your life. I have walked out of a meeting with the President of the company because my son face planted on the playground and may have needed stitches. I went home for the day my first day on the job because my daughter had a fever at school and needed to come home. We did all kinds of sports, band, and scouting. Putting family first shouldn’t cause any work place to disrespect you, they would disrespect you regardless and use that as an excuse.

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I'm a mother, but my son is a teenager now, so it's way easier than how it was years ago. My make teammates with young children clearly suffer more, so I think the age is quite relevant to burnout.

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I’m in the same boat. And I’m sure that’s the same for lots of people.

Depends on ages of the kids and their own maturity, independence, need or clinginess. Lol. My pregnancy was tough but everything after that was smooth sailing after the first 2 years lol.

I've survived the first few years. Now, I actually get moments to myself.

I;m a mom of two but fortunate to have my grandma and my mother living with us to help with the house and the children

I'm not a parent yet, but this is exactly what I feared when entering this career path. I wasn't sure whether engineering would allow time for building a family, especially as a mother. I'm grateful to hear that it's possible, but I'm still hesitant about it at times.

I am also very hesitant. Most of the days I work more than 8 hours. And debugging issues and coding require a lot of attention. I am just scared, how will I manage if I become a mother.

I'm a stepparent to a 12-year old boy. It works. If you care, you find a way to make it work.

Not a parent and I still struggle some days balancing work and life outside of work. My Program Manager is pregnant and expecting her 3rd - she’s AMAZING at what she does and I’m so thankful the startup we work for is people first!

Agreed! Not a parent here either but getting any kind of WLB is impossible at this point. Can see myself careening towards burnout but not sure how to stop it

Mom here. I do...I never had this problem before kids. I honestly think I am just tired 24/7 and that does not help.

Yes yes yes. Being a mother and a software engineer is demanding and so tiring. I found that if I set the standard with my employer on what my hours are and rarely going outside of those hours has been helpful. I quickly burn myself out doing otherwise

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