My friend invited me to hang out with her and her friends because I was feeling very sad about my breakup. Three of her friends end up hitting on me and just really invading my personal space. I honestly thought they had a joke or game of some sort. I tell my friend it makes me uncomfortable because it’s not something I’m looking for atm. She says I should take it as a compliment, but the only thing I feel is disgust that I now have to look forward to guys only wanting me for my body 😔

Important question! Any strategies for getting out of work zoom happy hours? Other than ignoring requests and not showing up, which has been my MO so far. But it’s getting a bit awkward.

I just had a student come to me to explain she just came out to her mother and her mother took it horribly. She is talking about sending her away to boarding school. How should I go about addressing.

I hate going home for Thanksgiving because I always feel like I haven't succeeded enough yet and my family has seen me fail a lot

So...who is single and ready to mingle? ✍️

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

What are some of the nice things that your SO do for you?

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

I'm not sure what else I did other than being respectful and not giving flip at the same time but (4) mature ladies in my office flirt with me every chance they get. Some of my M colleagues are beginning to notice and giving the prod. I must confess it comes with some perks as I do appreciate how fast they process my requests/orders which a M colleague literally told me is biased. Recently one of them offered to bring me her cooked food and asked that I do the same..(Cont'd)

For those that are the children of immigrants or are an immigrant themselves-what’s the greatest lesson that you’ve learned from your upbringing/family that you now apply to your career & life?

I think living a frugal life and aiming to retire early makes a lot of sense.

Recently, some of my family members are diagnosed with a rare diseases. When you look at the statistics, these are so many of these ‘rare’ conditions and cumulatively they are not rare.

These family members conditions made me reevaluate how I want to spend my life. I am 35 this year and I can’t decide if I should take great vacations with my kids or keep living a frugal life. Do you have the same dilemma?

Ghosted once more after what I thought was a great first date. Guess I’ll give up on love forever.

I just fleeced a guy in a trade: gave bears d/st for alshon + eagles d

Anyone waiting for the 2nd season of indian matchmaking??

Single 24 year old here. Recently joined Hinge. I am barely getting any activity. I'm a former OKCupid user and I always got something there. Do people not use Hinge or is there something wrong with me? I'm a fit average height guy and I am not ugly. Looking for LTR especially now in the time of Corona. Didn't bother with human interaction before tbh but this loneliness is creeping up. 😔

I've got some friends who work remote jobs, and every day I grow more jealous of them during my one-hour commute.

Half the reason I work out is to make my ex jealous

Brought my gf sushi take out to her house when she got off of work. She didn't like the meal I got her and started to eat the roll i got for myself. She noticed I wasn't eating so I told her I ate before rather than tell her she was actually eating my dinner. She's now mad at me that I "lied" even though I did it so she wouldn't be embarrassed. Who's in the wrong

Have someone ever found a date on Fishbowl ? Is Anyone up for a conversation? I'm straight boii.

My brother-in-law (age 30) told us recently that he is transgender. How can we support him? (‘Him’ as we haven’t discussed pronouns yet). It was a surprise to us!

To all the divorced folks out there...

1) What went wrong in your relationship?
2) What's one piece of advice you'd give to us singletons before jumping into a long term relationship/marriage?

I like to learn from other people's mistakes 😅

How is Citi bank project in LTI
Role Senior software Engineer. Please share experience

For folks starting at BCG (experienced hires) in August, is there any indication as to what the first week(s) of orientation and training is like? I.e., remote vs in-person (if in-person, which city), etc.
My SO is convinced she can’t make our weekend plans due to these trainings ..

Thoughts on these compact SUV : Jeep Cherokee vs Mazda cx5 vs bmw X1?

How is it working with NTT singapore?
Any one there in singapore?

Hi all, I’m gonna join pwc ac Bangalore next month. I need your help In knowing the holiday calendar or holidays available in last week of December I.e in between Dec 25th to Dec 31st. To plan my vacation. Please help

Hello Fishes,

In need of a referral to a Product based company / startup
Location: Remote / Delhi NCR/ Gurgaon
Tech Stack: Java Backend Engineer
Designation : SDE2
YOE 8 Years
Notice Period 30 days

Please help out a fellow fish

I’m an application analyst in the midwest for a small CAH. I was hired into this position at $27.15/hr and have now worked here for a year. I’m curious how my salary compares with others working in the midwest. My primary responsibilities are systems/HIE integrations using Meditech, HL7 transfer, SQL report writing, and user administration (just to name a few).

I am expecting an offer from Master Card for Senior Software Engineer position in O Fallon MO. Please let me know what kind of base salary I can expect with 11 yrs experience . I don’t wanna undersell but also trying to avoid being aggressive but quote a decent number which will be achievable. Any suggestions will be appreciated. Is 125k $ base a fair value for or I can pitch higher? They have a 15 to 20 % bonus on top of base pay and a 10% match on 401k which the recruiter keep highlighting.

How do you find in-house positions?

I have an offer from
Target Corporation -- TC 30LPA as a Sr. Engineer(Full stack)
And
Rubrik -- TC 30LPA + 750 RSUs as a Sr. Full Stack Dev

Really confused about where I should go,
Target tech stack - CQRS Java Spring boot microservices, React, Postgres, Mongo(The tech stack I am comfortable with)
Rubrik tech stack - Python Microservices, Postgres backend and Angular fronend.(The tech stack I have never worked with)

It comes down to Tech stack and WLB, Where should i join?

Anyone who commutes in from Jersey City - do you take the PATH or NJ transit? Which is better/worse?

Any Vets here consulting in the DC area? Thinking about making a move.

What would be the best method to transition from a financial advisory role to a more financial analyst focused position? Is this type of move unheard of/too difficult to do?

What are the most industry-related conferences and networking events worth going to?

What are some thoughts that get you out of your breakup sadness zone? I need to borrow them.

1. Have a better life than the one you imagined with him
2. Build a big life. Being rich and famous solves everything.
3. Mind your business. Be the main character in your story.

How many chances can you give someone?

I miss being able to innocently and naively fall in love and trust that things will work out. After being so disappointed twice in a row i just feel like now i cannot trust guys anymore and what they say. :( once u learn something, you cannot unlearn

Okay, it’s time to stop putting on a face about this. I love my boyfriend so much, but covid is ruining us. We are both still WFH and argue every few days about the dumbest stuff. My and his mental health are both diminishing and it feels like an impossible trench to dig out of. My stomach hurts every time we fight and I (independent of him) feel so stuck in this horrible global crisis. I don’t want to lose him, but I need to figure out how to dig us both out of this unsustainable mental state.

I’m shooting 3 talks tomorrow, none of the talks have been written. I can’t stop thinking about him.

My boyfriend is texting his best friend's girlfriend. He openly says "oh i texted her about x" to me and I believe him...but my concern is that they're going to start some sort of flirtationship. She's some sort of model and has even told her boyfriend that my boyfriend is funny whereas she says her boyfriend is obnoxious. Is this something to worry about? We're not in a great space right now so Idk what to think.

Currently going through divorce proceedings. I honestly don't want to date anyone right now but I have this fear that I'm already 28 and I'll never meet anyone good. I went on some apps and matched with some guys but I feel like they're all the same and I don't wana get to know anyone. But I'm also scared for my future.

How do you actually find a decent person to date when you’re working 80+ consulting hours? Like seriously...everyone I know who recently got engaged or married had been long term dating since high school or college. What has worked for people?

Had another dream about my ex. I asked him questions on why he changed. He answered just let go. I think now my brain is finally starting to fully acknowledge there is only one path forward.

It’s been six weeks since he broke up with me and I feel like I’m still in shock. Like I’m in a nightmare I can’t wake up from. I just can’t believe he left me when he always said he never would.

My boyfriend doesn't like to talk about his feelings. It's the time of year where he lost his sister (passed away) very suddenly and idk how to bring it up to him. I want him to know I know it's that time but feel like he'll just yell at me.

I was okay and then randomly saw photos of my ex that i didnt know existed in my message history to my friend (i deleted everything related to him the day we broke up) and it has brought back all the memories and pain. It has already been over two months. I hope this can go away.

How are all the lovely ladies doing today?! It's one of those days for me... Trying very hard with every breath to not check his profile and see what he's up to...
He broke up with me almost 2 months ago and it's just been death.
Some days very good and busy and powering through. Other days are hell. Pure hell

Hope everyone is doing well and happy, recovering from the heart break ❤️

The worst part of my breakup is the urge to obsess over his happiness with the woman he cheated on me with. Any tips?

I finally move out in two days and as the day gets closer, it gets so much harder. I love him and it hurts. Even right now, I’m still living with him and I’m in the living room watching tv and he’s working at his station. I think soon I’ll just be occupying my own time alone and not with the person I love. Idk how people do this.