Seeking encouragement after experiencing workplace moral harassement and depression following the end of my contract as an auditor. Worried about the impact on my future job prospects in a small industry. Looking for advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation. (More info in the comments).

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Minda Harts’ book on trauma in the workplace is a must read. Also check out Luvvie Jones’ professional troublemaker. I’m currently healing.

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Sending hugs and encouragement!!! Your psychiatrist should not be in practice! I know it's easier said than done but if you can, switch providers. This is a good book on navigating the workplace as a black professional---it is an American centric POV but some of the themes may translate. Good luck!

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Being an introvert myself I can relate . Quiet by Susan McCain is a great book. You can use the great qualities as an introvert to your advantage.

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Hello!!!
I'm a 23 y.o of African descent but was born and raised in a small European country.After working as an auditor at big 4 for 1.5 years, my contract ended in April. (Note that this is my first job ever) I've been struggling with severe depression since then, partly due to experiencing what I consider as moral harassment and workplace bullying. I worked tirelessly, to please my superiors but it was never enough. Being introverted, I faced comments like "you're not like the other black people we know, why aren't you fun?" To compensate and gain acceptance, I would work even longer hours. This experience shattered my already low self-esteem, leading to a breakdown and a leave of absence prescribed by my psychiatrist due to burnout and suicidal thoughts. I never returned to work and consequently burned bridges at the firm. Now, I'm hearing from old colleagues that they are bad-mouthing me, blaming me for my mistreatment because for them I wasn’t a top performer. Being from a small country where the accounting/audit world is interconnected, I fear this experience has ruined my chances of finding another job. I suspect there was prejudice involved in my treatment, as I wasn't given the same benefit of the doubt as my white peers. Additionally, my psychiatrist doesn't believe racism exists in 2023 and believes my introversion makes me unlikeable at work, suggesting I should work harder to be more outgoing.
Has anyone faced a similar situation? I would appreciate any advice you have to offer. I’ve been reading books to work on my self esteem and to help me stop feeling sorry for myself as I’m now aware that only I can defend me and protect me. But I would appreciate any advice and words of encouragement.

Sending you so much love and support.

F' all of those people, but ESPECIALLY your therapist. Fire them now; they don't know what they are doing, and if they are US based, they should be reported to their licensing body.

You will absolutely find another role; look for associations to participate in, even an industry specific slack group.

This time, right now, is where you reflect, and heal.

As you reflect, repeat to yourself, over and over again, because it is true: " And STILL I Rise"

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