Single dad here. Just starting to date. First date tonight got me thinking. When do I bring up my son? How? I am young (25). For some reason I feel like it will send girls my age running...

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I was upfront! Thanks guys!

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Immediately! If they she has a problem with your son she’s not for you

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@acn1 haha right on. You know what, youre a young guy, you have a son (awesome, im expecting soon too), so its definitely okay to take your time - be career and family focused... as a guy you have a pretty long shelf life, plus, in 10 years, maybe youll be a salt n pepper haired, steely-eyed baller

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Be upfront about it. You can weave your child into the conversation in a natural way. I had the same reservations but found that most women /ladies are completely receptive to it, including women under the age of 24. They may ultimately decide they don’t want to take on that type of relationship now (low probability) but it you wait too long, especially after sleeping with her, she’ll want nothing to do with you.

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Gotta always be honest and you’ll find the right one who doesn’t care about that...the right one will embrace your son!

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Another way to look at it what’s your goal... that get a girlfriend, get a wife or just a good time?

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Dan Savage has the well thought out answer to your question. Search the Savage Love archives

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Be up front all the way. I missed the entire online dating thing, but i imagine that it can help set expectations better? Or i dunno, spin sell it :D

Right away (after some initial connection and if you see it progressing)

Wait until you get laid.

Tell her mid-nut and say you want another. Then hold her down

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