So, I got the dreaded email to relocate to Dallas, ATL, NJ or Seattle this year. Ideally I did not want to move and find another position, but after landing a few interviews and not getting an offer, I am forced to take the choice to relocate to Dallas (it being HQ) in future. Unfortunately, my spouse might lose her job because of this. Do you guys recommend, accepting relocation for now, find another job and not move or go ahead with the move?

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Accept the job to buy time. Plan to move on your own, at least temporarily, whilst looking for other employment. That way you will protect your wife's income, because there's a risk that after moving they will make you redundant anyway.

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Unless you relocate to Dallas as part of the deal, there is no exchange. It seems like there must be a new contract and an exchange of value for you to give up your severance. If you moved and they laid you off, that doesn't mean they get to reset the severance clock. If you left on your own, of course it does. That is where you have to take a hard look at the severance offered: is it enough to leave and start looking now versus "moving" and continuing your search? You could also commute and rent a dinky apartment for a bit.

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This is very personal decision that you have to discuss with your wife and family, is different for everyone. I would accept it and move temporarily, rent an efficiency or a room and travel back home on weekends while looking for another role if you don’t want to relocate permanently due to your wife and family. Once you find something else you can resign.

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You have to do what you think is best but just remember, you might upend your whole life (and you wife's) to move to a place you don't necessarily want to be for a job that may decide to let you go when the next round of layoffs happens in 6 months. There is zero loyalty with these corporations, consider that as you weigh your options.

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Replacing the entire workforce with AI is the number one reason companies are getting hacked every day on every product.

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Is this company actually strong? I would read this as a subtle way for them to have some people leave without having to pull the layoff trigger--but the reality is that will have to layoff soon anyway if that's the state of things. If you are in Tech, moving to a city with strong tech options (Seattle, North NJ (~=New York) is better than one that's basically just another Metro (Dallas, Atlanta) especially if you get laid off soon.

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Agreed. This seems like a soft layoff in a sense.

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Consider everything, like cost of living etc. plan to move and stay in temp housing for now. Dallas will have the lowest cost of living and TX overall is a good place to live. This could be a good thing for yall

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Relocate yourself only if you can, leave the wife at home base. Wait for the winds to blow over, be flexible, don't have to break. I have done that before, worked out well.

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Please note Texas is a no state Tax state and you will have more money in your pocket. Just fyi

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Where do you WANT to be? If you want to stay put and can financially swing it with just your wife’s salary, stay. If you really need your salary for your family to make ends meet but losing hers wouldn’t hurt, then relocation may be best.

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Where are you located now?
What type of work does your spouse do?
If either of you get laid off, what opportunities are there in a new market like Dallas compared to where you are now?

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...if you live in St Louis then Dallas would be paradise.

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I’m currently located in uk with over eight years of experience in customer service and coordination. I have been looking out for similar jobs in UK and I haven’t received any interview call yet. It seems the uk market is down.

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If you have a settled family, it seems risky to move.

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Plano is not bad, at least the legacy west area is fairly new development.

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Depends where you live. I definitely would not move to Seattle, NJ, or Atlanta.

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Can you make it on your spouse’s salary after you lose your job? If the answer is yes then it’s not all about you having a job. So you think it’s fair to uproot her and make her have to start over not only looking for a job but with no support system? She’s a partner not dependent.

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If my spouse got her job in another state while i am in geting job in another state Dallas , yes this is the truth that means nothing to arm our relationsionship if our communication is great location should not get our relationship ruined . pls Go make the money without it your relationship can at risk

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Hello,
Actually i finished my bootcamp on 2023 to 2024 in software developer i have hand experience right now i am working in jewelry company but i want remote work in IT field because of personal reason so I want suggestion what do i do ?

Dallas is nice, you'll like it probably

Accept relocation, find a place where you can stay with a roommate, work there exactly how long to not pay the relocation back, then move back home. Free money.

The same policy was applied to my role. Our family was torn apart. We have to work at two locations. Life is still struggling and a lot of relocated folks are still on the chopping board. But I would do job hugging as long as I can. Don’t quit before they lay you off during this nutty time. I have been looking for a role in my home town for three years since then. Bitter…

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