So, should I ask my boyfriend of almost 2 years if he ever sees us getting married?

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Why haven’t you had this conversation already?

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You're seeking the opinion from a group of people in a Singles bowl on this?

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I was going to say the same thing lol

You know the answer.

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Of course, assuming you want to marry him?

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I evaluate if I want to marry someone at the year mark and I confirm with them then and if it's not a yes/maybe for both of us, then I break up with them. For the love of God, do not waste your own life. Some people are jumbled up inside and have a hard time figuring out their own feelings, but that's not your problem and you should not gamble your life on them.

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I've had nine different people ask me if I would consider marrying them. Most of my relationships that pass the 2-3 month mark have survived that year mark.

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Op, ask point blank. I was in your position wondering if I should ask, the answer is yes, and if he has never brought it up, his answer may not be what you want to hear. But you need to ask so you don’t waste time. He might say yes if he doesn’t want to lose you.

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The answer is no otherwise it would have already been discussed

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Yes or you’re wasting your time hoping

Yes. You need to know if to double down or cut your losses

Yes

Ugh duh

If you have a bf of almost 2 yrs, why are you in a 30s & 40s Singles Bowl? How would you feel if you found out he were in this bowl?

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