TFW speaking with high school friends: misunderstood as shit

As much as I talk about wanting a man to take care of me financially, I have way too much pride to allow it when it actually happens

Getting over heartbreak and having a full time job is torture lol. My boyfriend and I just broke up after almost a year of being together. It was such a beautiful relationship but ultimately he just didn’t love me. I love him so much. My mind knows that I deserve reciprocal love and I’m worthy, but I feel physically ill. My body hurts, my stomach is in knots, my head hurts. How is it that I have to mend a broken heart but also meet my billable hours lmao

I want to thank everyone in this bowl for getting me trough the nightmare that is PCOS related fertility issues. After 1.5 years of trying, two rounds of medicated IUI, accupuncture and every other homeopathic treatment available, a vanished twin…. Hubby and I welcomed our little girl on Friday at 37 weeks. She’s perfect. It was conversations in THIS bowl that gave me the hope and advice I needed to get here. So thank you, all of you- and to those that need it - hang in! There is hope.

Happy wife happy life is a really toxic saying. I’m just shocked how this has become the standard saying for men in relationships. I have friends of mine saying this all the time, and I have just thought it’s so cringe and always want to say my thoughts on it but always decide to hold back. However, imagine the saying reversed - happy husband happy life - that would lead to all kinds of uproar. To me happy wife happy life means I need to sacrifice my wants and needs to make my wife happy.

Do any parents have a Lovevery discount code? Also, are there other similar services I should look it? Our LO is due in 3 weeks. So, I want to get him off to a good start.

How do I deal with a parent who has become bitter and shrewd as they age? It’s exhausting and disheartening to be around because they used to be positive and happy. I’d like to help them be positive again but also want to give them space to feel how they feel. I just want them old version of my parent back 😞

I'd love to see stats on divorce rates in NYC Big Law vs. general population

My husband does not show affection openly and is quite lazy in bed, and I thought I could deal with it because I love him, but it’s really really beginning to annoy me. For example, he refuses to do any foreplay and basically asks that I get on top of him most of the time when we have have sex- if I push him to do anything else he basically just refuses to have sex at all as some sort of ‘protest’. I am finding myself fantasising about an affair more and more

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

I cheated... we aren’t supposed to do real art in the morning. We watch an art video and discuss in the morning, then in the afternoon we post an instructional video and the kids do a small project at home... I cheated yesterday. I handed out air dry clay and went to town with my 3rd grades.... the kids said it was the most fun art class ever. I will get in trouble for passing stuff out, but I needed it. So did the kids. Best art day all year!

How was your Thanksgiving? Anyone else stuck avoiding all of the relationship questions?

I do NOT want children. And yet, recently, I’m desperate to spend time with my niece and nephew. I’m panicking that this is the beginning of me changing my mind.

To all the divorced folks out there...

1) What went wrong in your relationship?
2) What's one piece of advice you'd give to us singletons before jumping into a long term relationship/marriage?

I like to learn from other people's mistakes 😅

Anyone knows and/or recommend a divorce lawyer in the Bay Area. Starting the process for an uncontested divorce. Please comment or DM me.

I feel like gay men especially are constantly discriminated against in the workplace. I have been turned down for a promotion, yet again, in favor of a married heterosexual with kids. This has been the story of my career. Have superior experience - stellar reviews - people fighting to get on to my team because our team is great and I treat everyone well. This is so frustrating. Again and again, it’s a culture of parents helping other parents. No gays in upper level mgmt in our office.

I want to give a Christmas gift to the manager of the gym I go to. She’s awesome and I just really appreciate her. I can’t think of any ideas though! Can anybody think any good ones? I do not know much about her personal life except that she’s a single mother.

How do I ship my mom in law back? Almost ruining our marriage and loosing the affection for my wife and kids already

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Desi folks! Why do you let your parents manage your profile on the websites? It’s so uncomfortable when you get a call at 4 am saying “beta, we like your profile.” 🤷🏽‍♂️

Deloitte 🐠 - did anyone get selected in the H1B lottery this year? I have only heard of rejections so far sent from BAL

I’ve been practicing Plaintiff’s first party for five years now. Contemplating a switch to an in-house role for an ins. Co. Can anyone give any insight to what the typical day to day is as in-house for an insurance company? TIA

Somebody please elaborate on Corporate Functions team at Accenture!! Is it part of Tech?

Hi all - just joining and looking for some guidance! I am currently in an IT internship position (making pretty solid money considering) and following this summer I will stay on part time during my senior year (discussing a full-time job offer after already). I’m getting my computer science degree, so I would like to do something more technical in the workplace when I graduate. How do I advocate myself for that to my manager without sounding unappreciative of the position I’m in?

Are any members of this group producers at an independent agency?

Just got another rejection... Is exiting to FAANG or MB really this hard? Trying to go tech.. or mbb, but not getting anywhere. I have 2 masters (mba, ms) from top schools, been in consulting for over 10 years, I am confident that I know my stuff well..but still I keep getting rejected. Interviewed with Google, Amazon, Cisco, McKinsey, and a few others and every-time there is something that is not a match... are the hiring managers looking for like 100% match? That will never happen!!!

Hollow if you know the song at the title/image of this group!

Looking for a “rustic” style brown suit for my brother’s wedding (for him) preferably not wool and preferably under $500. Any suggestions? Wedding is late June.

Hi guys, I am looking for data scientist/ machine learning engineer role. I am a fresher and looking for opportunities. Can anyone refer me for entry level data scientist/ machine learning jobs.
Thanks

I’m looking to get into Tech Sales and would love to connect with a fellow sales savvy for tips on how to crush my interviews but also perfect my resume. I’m coming from a fintech background

what Is the avg salary of 601 in JPMC WITH 5 YEARS OF EXPERIENCE

Anyone ever have experience negotiating a new offer to include unvested 401k match and stock grants from your current employer? I hate leaving money on the table but there are some good roles out there. I’m not fully vested in my current 401k yet and my stock grants haven’t matured yet either. This would be at a global director level.

Do TCS give a counter offer if an associate resigns???

I have a friend who told me he sought treatment for alcohol abuse 6 mo ago. We talk a lot and I try not to judge or ask too many questions about his progress, just wanting to be a supportive friend who doesn’t pressure him. Today I brought him to a very laid back picnic… there was drinking but plenty of non-alcoholic alternatives, and it was a very chill group. Toward the end of the day I noticed him drink something. Should I have confronted and stopped him? Should I bring it up now? Guilty now

Trying to chart my next move and not sure what direction to go. All I know is I’m tired of being always “on” in a client-facing environment.

Any podcasts, books, etc I can read for insight into more internal roles like biz ops, corporate dev/strategy, other??

4 YOE total all in consulting. Currently a SC. Clients/work have been commercial healthcare implementation & public health strategy, risk, process imp etc.

Got my first juror summons that I couldn’t claim an exemption for yesterday 😭. Anybody here actually made it onto a jury as an attorney?

Does anyone here work in-house? Or as an outside GC to a company?

What’s the fastest/youngest you’ve ever seen someone make partner?

Can anyone recommend a good legal recruiter in the Denver, Colorado area? I’m a 7th year attorney and I’m ready to jettison the recruiter I’ve been working with after not getting a single interview in eight months of searching. Thanks!

About to start a new position doing cross border securitization and structured lending transactions. What should I expect as a first year and how can I prepare?

I'd love to see stats on divorce rates in NYC Big Law vs. general population

I’m a first year. Getting a heavy case load - general liability, med mal, FELA, and products. I don’t really know how to organize my outlook email inbox. Any suggestions on where to start would be great. I’ve struggled with being organized in the past and obviously looking to improve in this respect. Thanks.

I have a lot of mindless closing binder assembly today so I’ve been watching Restrepo and Korengal in the background. It.... really puts things in perspective. I feel like such a baby for complaining about long hours or stressing over emails.

Trying to explain billable hrs to hubs. I billed 160 this month, which he said “is only 40 hr weeks” (true) - but how many hrs do you figure you “work” or are in the office to bill 150?

Has anyone taken  ACAMS Certified Global Sanctions Specialist (CGSS)? Any comments/ reviews? How has it enhanced your employability? Why did you take the CGSS?

What is the best big law firm in LA for white collar defense?

Pro tip I wish I received: when lateraling back up your phone before leaving so you don’t lose it’s contents when your previous firm remote-factory resets the device.

Giving a CLE on practical tips for young lawyers, which focuses on practical tips such as looking for leadership opportunities and client development. We want to give a hand out of resources we’d recommend, like books, podcast, etc. Any recommendations for resources we should include?

I was passed over for partner but will make of counsel at a V50 firm. I’ve put in the work to make partner, but the firm is making very few this year (less than 10). Am I wrong to feel disrespected?

How difficult is it to move to Big Law if you’ve only worked at small firms as a junior associate? It seems like a bubble you can’t infiltrate if you didn’t make your start in big law during OCIs

I’ll be working in a city neighboring a nearby state where my SO has to perform an essential in-person job. Since I’m not licensed in the state where my SO is working, I’d like to keep my current job where I am licensed but work from the office Monday through Wednesday, drive to the neighboring state Wednesday night and work remote at my SO’s place Thursday-Friday. I’ll keep a home in the city where I’m working. My question is: do I need to tell my boss? (I’d be productive as normal)

My local Safeway is already stocking Valentine's Day chocolates. What would they do without holiday candy to sell? Is this their main purpose? I wonder what they do in off season (if that exists)