The feeling of relief when you have the realization that big law isn’t for you and that you are not a failure for it not being for you and that there is better out there.

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BL may not be for you, but please don’t let them drive you away from The Practice. Please! Do not EVER let these failed up mediocres drive you out.

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“Failed up mediocres” is an amazing phrase and I’m stealing it! Lol I can unfortunately find too many appropriate uses for it

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Congratulations on being brave enough to do what makes you happy! Too many lawyers feel like they have to prove to the world that they belong in certain environments when those environments aren’t making them happy.

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Hi OP,

I think A1 is saying the first sentence because so many black women and black men in big law are made to feel exactly the way your post says and then they leave - even if they actually are an amazing attorney that can succeed in big law but they are effectively being "iced out" because of their skin color and prevailing points of view that erroneously believe that big law is not for people of color, and particularly black people.

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I don’t like this post because of the bowl it’s in. But agree that if you haven’t found the environment a fit especially given its myriad issues and treatment of attorneys in this bowl, there’s nothing wrong with you.

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I don’t like that you feel this way but absolutely don’t think there’s anything wrong with you that do and hope there is a lot better out there.

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No environment is one size fits all. Not all attorneys are going to love BL, or being in-house, or working at a non-profit, or government. Different strokes for different folks. You shouldn’t feel bad for not liking BL and instead happy that you have made that realization and can begin working towards finding the right environment where you’ll thrive!

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