The principal on my team in the course of conversation was saying how I could pass for straight. And how others can’t. In front of the team I manage.

Should I be weirded out by that?

At some points, I feel I am becoming a problem magnet 🧲. Anything I touch or get involved in, tun into a nightmare despite doing my best not to screw up. I was a top performer a few months ago, and now I am a team blocker. I feel it so hard to disappoint people around me whom I respect a lot. Helpless 😞😞😞

Have you had a boss that triggered an anxiety attack after each time you spoke? My current boss triggers that whenever we have a phone or in person conversation. I'm on antidepressants and exercising

Hi fam! Taking a poll- are you out at work? To everyone or just a chosen few?
And bonus- do you know other Black LGBTQ folks at work that are out to all?

I want to attend grad school (public policy) starting Aug 2020. When would be the best time to tell my team? Once I’m accepted? Don’t want to give my 2 weeks to say I’ve known for 5 months

I’m a manager and one of my direct reports makes more than me. It really bothers me. Anyone else been in this situation before? What’s the best way to handle it?

I just left a very toxic work place.
The crazy thing is they were just named the best local municipality to work for. It's upsetting. They advertise a "culture" but don'tapply it. It felt like a used car sales pitch, I was sold a dream but given junk. I am constantly replaying moments. I have read so many books and everything leads to they were the problem. How do I recover from this?

How do you tackle ignorant managers and favoritism in the team ?

What are some good memoirs by men who were never loved by their father? I gotta get into the mind of our client.

Hey. For people who’ve moved laterally, how did you deal with the request for references from your current employer?

Attending a company holiday party where they're doing a white elephant gift exchange. I barely know anyone except through emails and IMs given that most of us WFH. Fun but office appropriate gift ideas $30 or under?

Name the most ridiculous micro-managing by partners that you experience.

I’ll go first: MP told me that on initial emails, I am always to start with “Hello [name],” but after the initial email, I am not to address her by name again in the same thread. Initial greeting can only be “Hello [name] ” because just first name is too brisk and a “Hi [name]” is too informal. Had a 5 minute, in depth conversation as to why she prefers it this way…

There’s a manager on here who is cat fishing. Tells women he’s a woman and asks for phone number. Doesn’t share name and uses a Google voice number. Happened with another friend of mine on this bowl and with me. Please be careful.

Hello, what dress clothes do you wear to work?

I just finished a big jury trial with a senior partner (SP). There were co-parties w/separate counsel. SP mentally checked out, to the point that co-counsel was asking what SP was doing/if SP was okay. I ended up handling most everything. SP did a few parts but went rogue and did things that were offensive/risky/bad for client. It became clear that SP is not performing like SP used to and may be a liability. Do I tell someone at my firm? Don’t want to offend SP or cause drama, but I’m concerned.

I’ve decided to leave a toxic work environment and have begun applying elsewhere. It’s now very difficult to motivate myself at work. Any advice for how to survive until I have an offer in hand?

When I was coming up the ranks it was very common for managers to be verbally aggressive and in my opinion abusive. Have a lot of you experienced this too? Hated it greatly and vowed to never be like them.

Would anyone be interesting in referring a friend of mine to their firm? He is a Nigerian-American who just got back from doing his mandatory year of work for the Nigerian govt and is having a cont...

Now I'm in a client location, My manager is a good person but he told me, I should report to Lead.

Lead is a psycho. He shows hell to the team members including me.
What should I do ?

So embarrassed. I literally had one job to do today which was to schedule a client and give and take her paperwork when she came in. Totally called her by the wrong name today AND gave her the wrong paperwork. She was really nice about it but I feel like my boss was disappointed and I'm disappointed in myself. I don't want her to think I won't be able to keep clients straight when I start doing supervised sessions.

Last week team dynamics took a turn for the worst (even tho in each retro the team always commend each other, you would think team work is great). Team members get agitated with each other for being slow. Team members coming across rude and brash (the same ones are difficult to get hold to offer support, time is money is what someone said💰, the craziest was the client accidently sharing her whatsapp screen, commenting on people's feedback to what she was presenting OMG 😲 How was your week?

Hi everyone Kindly let me know which is the best out of these two
YOE: 11
HCL -- 32(includes everything)
Publicis Sapient -- 33
Heard lot of firing in PS and about WLB.
Need company which has better WLB, job security and growth

I’m a defense-side employment attorney with 5-7 years of mid- to large firm experience. What would it take to pivot to an employee relations-type position? MBA? MHRM? Come as I am?

What is the performance review cycle at Salesforce? Will someone hired in November/December be eligible to receive the annual bonus?

Seeking advice: I am a young sales consultant and sales engineer working for a tech startup company. I have 6 years of sales experience. And I have been helping run my family business for the past 10 years. I was intially interviewed for a senior account executive position at a $70k offer. Instead they told me I needed more training and hired me as a Junior account executive at a $50k salary + commission. Today is my 6th month mark and I have done very well. And no talks of a promotion / raise..

Hi everyone! I’m pivoting from working in politics in search of a role in DEI. I have 1.5 YOE managing multiple campaigns and a BA in Global Studies & MA in Ethnology. I have experience working in and with non-profits and a passion for people and culture. I’d love to connect to hear about your journeys & advice for an early career transition!

Men’s belt that goes well with jeans. Any suggestions ? Pictures also welcome

Guys,

Please help me with any vital contacts that should be kept with me before my last working day in Capgemini.

I took my payslips
Form16
Salary revision letters

Anything I am missing?
How to connect with Capgemini after last working day for any queries or clarifications?

Please advise. Thanks in advance

Would you marry someone that’s unemployed or doesn’t want to work? What’s the minimum salary you can accept from your SO ?

Does your consulting firm offer a Jewish community group or professional network? Please indicate your company name if possible - doing research on DEI initiatives for the Jewish community. Thank you in advance! 🙏🏻

Anybody willing to help a broke kid out with some mock interview prep?

Why haven’t Biden and Harris fixed America yet? 😞

Debt payoff update: house paid off, personal loans paid off, credit card down from 22K to 5K. Car loan is 21K. Looking to be completely debt free in 6 weeks, very excited!

If I got 1/10000th of a bitcoin every time some dude on an app asks me if I like being an accountant... I'd be rolling in mad dough

Deloitte peeps.. Can someone give me the detailed run down on how to most cheaply access PrEP? Starting with which health plan option, etc. Thanks in advance!

Do you guys check Grindr on your office network?

Ryan Murphy is the new Aaron Spelling. Big rich producer making money off of cheesy shlock. I guess you can’t take the Indiana out of the boy. Heart’s in the right place though. Bless his heart.

What is the reason why we still can’t donate blood? It’s 2022.

Anyone move to Miami in the last 1-2 years? what’s it like vs where you were before? Do you like it so far? How’s the dating scene if you’re BIPOC?

Would you date an ex army/marine who has actually been through wars (and killed people) and told you that they can hear ringing noises?

I went on a date last week and it went really well. We basically set up 2nd & 3rd dates that night. 2nd date's Friday for drinks and 3rd date is drag brunch. Date had to end pretty early bc she's in the med field and needs to wake up around 5am. I'm new to dating people my own gender and I want to make moves but I'm nervous/hesitant since I'm new to this. There was light touching, leaning in, eye contact, but I want to do more. Anything I should do on the 2nd date? How to initiate?

Thinking about moving from Seattle to San Diego, but don’t have any friends down there. Any advice for how to meet queer friends?

Saw my second gray hair today and it's on the middle of my head. Makes me want to find a guy before im too silver and bald 😔

How many of you are in an interracial relationship? And what are yours and your partner's ethnicities?Just wanted to do a quick poll :)

Do you set up any standards when you date with anybody? I’m currently dating with a Mexican man. He is older than me 10 years old (I thought 6 when we first met). His job is construction and made less than me. He is insecure about the money but I’m not really. But, the one bothering me is that he is illegal immigrant. Other than that, He is a cure, nice and independent guy. When dating, he split money/ or want to cover for me. He cares about people around. I am happy but not sure about LT.

If any Lesbians in Atlanta want to grab drinks, I’ll be at MSR after the Dream Game tonight.

Have you seen women wear ties and "masculine"-looking suits to work? Was it accepted by client and team? I've never worn a tie to work, but when I've worn clothing that had a more "masculine" fit either in grad school or some work environments, I've gotten comments and looks, or sometimes asked (or people gossiped) about my orientation. When I wear more "feminine"-looking clothing, I feel more more uncomfortable and awkward. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I haven’t watched drag race before but I’m curious to learn more. Do you all have a favorite season or a season you recommend I start with?

NYC 🐠 Anyone try the dating app MOTTO? Any good?

Any tips for selling your parents on an older boyfriend? Mine is 20 years older than me, but I really don’t think it is an issue.

Any single lipstick lesbians here, what to chat 😉?

My brother-in-law (age 30) told us recently that he is transgender. How can we support him? (‘Him’ as we haven’t discussed pronouns yet). It was a surprise to us!