When I was coming up the ranks it was very common for managers to be verbally aggressive and in my opinion abusive. Have a lot of you experienced this too? Hated it greatly and vowed to never be like them.

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All too familiar with what you’re describing

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What industry do you work in?

Negative experiences like that are the best motivation when it comes to personal growth or making a genuine difference.

Cant relate but could that be cause I’m pretty new to pm. My manager is fantastic

I didn't have quite the same experience, but I've dealt with a lot of passive-aggressiveness on teams and generally a lot of weirdness because I was too ~~junior~~~

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