This Friday is The LegalMind Society’s next Advocates 4 Advocates Support Group at noon Central Time. If you need some support with your mental health, this is where you can come to learn that you are not alone. Visit https://www.thelegalmindsociety.org/supportprograms or https://calendly.com/legalmindsociety/advocates-4-advocates-support-group to register!

My respect for Lewis just went a notch up, what a drive in those conditions and still manages to get maximum out of that car

I was recently hired by my dream agency. I get creative freedom, flexible hours, and I can work from home if I feel like it. Always keep looking for better opportunities, you never know when one might show up!

Hi guys.... Here is my situation.. Pls answer..

I have been promoted to senior but I am very much underpaid even after promotion. I took my concern to my manager. And manager as well accepted that I am seriously underpaid and told me that will take this to senior manager or ED..
What could be their response. can I expect them to give me right hike immediately ? Is it happened to anybody.

Please respond... TIA

Has anyone considered joining a private social club (e.g., Union Club, City Club)? If so why are the pros you’ve found and if you considered and decided against, why?

Does oracle has a office at Kolkata ? My current location is banglore , can I change my base location to Kolkata ?

If yes , what's the process ?

F 39 I’m officially on search for a husband (shamelessly). What do you guys like in a lady, what kind of look grabs your attention? What do I need to wear?? My male friends tell me I need more revealing clothes! 😂

How does everyone manage SAD during the winters. Feeling so down and not sure what are the best ways to cope.

If someone goes to Dubai as a third party contracter for job, is it still possible to get a job in India and come back.?

Best pet insurance for a puppy?

Hello!
My wife is on STEM-OPT and her 90 days of unemployment is coming to an end. She graduated from NYU and is looking for roles associate with financial analyst. She did her certification like Bloomberg Market Concept and Financial Modeling.
Can anyone kindly refer her to any bank where there is work related to investment banking or as financial analyst?
Thank you!

So… which one of you nutters got up at 3am (EST) to watch DTS? What do we think?

Putting together a reading list for 2023, and reading more business and personal development materials is going to be one of my resolutions. Can anyone recommend books that should be on this list?

Chewy TUMS: These look so good but its not clear to me if its halal. How do you determine from these ingredients? Especially when the first ingredient is alcohol ammonium which i know its not alcohol but any clarification on these ingredients would be appreciated!

I have my second round PgM interview coming up. Would appreciate if you could please share some resources for interview preparation! TIA

How do I negotiate for a higher starting level? I have 5 years of experience and they told me I would be either L4/L5 but now I’m hearing it’s between L3/L4. I love google and I want to work here but I don’t think I could come in at L3. This is for SWE and onsites went very well

10/06 Thread (BC):

Hey mate,

What would be the ideal CTC for 1+ year experience as Oracle Financial functional consultant?

Thanks in advance

Team i am working in Deloitte USI bangalore having 6.5yrs of exp in cybersecurity . Got an offer in Pwc ac Kolkata but in bangalore office . They are offering decent hike 48% and manager role . Seeing so many bad reviews a bit concerned now !! Should I go ahead or not ?

Please suggest..

Most/Least stressful areas of practice (in either transition or litigation)

If you’re reading this, go drink some water!

People with depression in big law- how do you manage? How do you meet your hours? The lack of support/training and being remote has been very hard on me.

Choose to be happy today

What about legal work is currently causing your mental health struggles?

Mine’s the hours, which is not normally my issue. I billed 230 for June and July and am already at 145 for August. My ability to focus is getting worse by the day, so I’m working longer to bill the same hours and have had to pull a couple all nighters. I burst into tears this morning when a client changed plans and now wants a major project by end of month, on top of my other deadlines next week... I just want to sleep.

Is anyone else experiencing a new wave of covid anxiety due to the stress of figuring out the holidays? Got in an argument with a family member about safety guidelines and testing needing to happen and I’ve been feeling paralyzed by anxiety all day.

Has anyone had good experiences taking ashwagandha for daily stress?

When I was going into courtrooms, a bad night of sleep didn’t matter-I’d snap to attention as soon as I got into court. I’m doing phone hearings now and the focus isn’t there as much. Any ideas?

When covid first hit, I was delighted to be working from home. My hours even improved. Now, because of some triggering events, I’m dealing with horrible panic attacks on the daily. I’m dissociating and can’t focus long enough to get work done. I JUST hit a year at this firm and am going on a one month stress leave. Worried I might not kick this mental state in that time. Any advice as to what I can do while on leave so I can come back focused and ready to work?

I’ve had a really tense, emotionally exhausting week. Things wrapped up yesterday and now my body feels so strung out and exhausted. Any tips for coming down from being so strung out without relying on toxic habits and just shutting down/procrastinating? (My brain is saying “go for a run” and my body is getting stuck picking at my eyebrows for two hours) I feel like my central nervous system is on a roller coaster.

Mental health issues in our profession are finally being recognized. While mental health issues are not unique to lawyers, the profession and it's client service mantra present unique challenges.

Wish apps like BetterHelp were free. I can’t afford healthcare or therapy (I’m unemployed, and yes, I’ve tried seeking pro bono therapy options — no place anywhere nearby offers it.) I really need a therapist I can talk to on at least a weekly basis to just unpack so much that’s bogging me down to the point of being unable to function some days, but it’s just so cost prohibitive! What sucks is everyone assumes this career hands you median wages on a platter but I’m worse off than I’ve ever been.

Anyone participating in dry January or done similar things in the past? Did you notice an effect on mental health or other benefits?

Burnout: cyclical and becomes so debilitating that I find myself unable to do simple every day tasks. How often do you burnout? What does it entail for you?

I’ve been working to an unhealthy degree lately. And I’ve been making the excuse that I have a lot of work right now, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m addicted to it. Part of it is anxiety and perfectionism. But my behavior is now actively harmful to myself and starting to harm my marriage.

How do I stop? I’m not talking work-life balance. I mean, how do I say, “I don’t care that the client wants this tomorrow and I’m not close to done, I’m going to sleep tonight”?

Does anyone have any advise when it comes to navigating getting help and your firm. I had a tough month mentally. But I reached out to my local bar’s LAP. I’m starting the process of seeing a therapist. But my dreads still here. I’m panicking about being short on hours, falling behind on my cases and explaining to my boss I know I’m behind at work but I am working on it. Any advise will be greatly appreciated.

Anyone here willing to share their firsthand experience of searching for and selecting a therapist? My wife was kind enough to vet a few through our church and her friends, but wondering if I might find a better fit with a therapist who specializes in working with lawyers or small business owners.

question of the day: why did you join this bowl? Since I asked, I will start: I’ve been on a journey of recovery from legal-overachiever-workaholism. Changed jobs, city and environment and still working hard to recover from burnout that is, unfortunately, part and parcel of the legal profession.

Guilt and shame about working in a legal position for years where, instead of using my law degree (was supposed to do legal work per the job posting), I served as a personal assistant to my boss/did nothing for maybe half the time. I feel like I was paid for work I didn't do. I've since left that job but the guilt and shame remains. I feel that I lack the character of a lawyer and that I am unworthy of the profession. I don't know how to make up for the lost years or how to forgive myself.