This is the busiest time of year for my company, and we’re in the middle of several audits that I do heavy lifts on, but over the last two weeks my mom has gone off chemo (she was 6yrs deep) and will be going into hospice within days. I HAVE to take a leave of absence. I’m an only child and all my mom has. I’ve been trying to work this week and I’m absolutely useless. I feel TERRIBLE about doing this to my employer but I have to. I guess I’m just looking for some encouragement.

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While it is admirable that you are a dedicated employee who cares how well the work is done, at this point, it doesn't matter. They will find their way without you. They did before you came along, they will during your absence, and they will again if you ever decide to leave.

I've never stood at any death bed and heard: I wish I had just stayed and finished ABCD instead of going to my (family members) event/side/etc. No one has ever said that in my presence. I have a wildly large family, and I have stood at the death bed of many of my relatives. The only thing they've ever wanted is to see everyone one last time to tell them they love them and maybe med fences if needed.

If you chose to continue to work and not be with your mother, as you desire, she would ultimately not care. Eventually, she will pass away. It will matter to you. The living person is the one who'll carry regret, remorse, guilt, anxiety, etc. for the rest of their life. You could ultimately destroy your mental health because not only did your mother die, but you weren't there. There are endless daytime talkshow episodes about this very thing.

My last point of thought for you is ...no company or job is worth being so wrapped up in that you put your loved ones to the side. I recognize this has been a long fight for your mother and you, but the company can never give you anything as precious as these last days with your mom. I made the mistake one time of putting my work before family, and I paid very dearly for it. That was nearly 18 years ago, and it still haunts me. I promise you, take the time. The work will get done. The ship will not sink. As difficult as that might be to accept, as you are a critical employee in the company, it is the truth.

You got this. They got the audit. Go be with your lovely momma.

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This is a perfect time to remind yourself that your boss is not your friend (nor your family). Leaving them in the busiest season is stressful, I'm sure. But you will never forgive yourself for not being there for your mom in this time. Take the time, and don't feel any shame for doing so.

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I’m an only child as well. Take the time. Family comes first. Even the best employer would not think twice about cutting you loose. It’s not worth it.

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You only have one mother in this life. Give her the love, care, and attention that she gave you growing up, especially in this difficult time. You will never regret the last bit of time you will have with her, f work.

You sound like a very dedicated employee. I'm not sure how long you've been with that company, but I am sure they can see what a great worker you are and can also see that you are going through an awful time. I am proud of you for what you are doing. Wishing you the best

Hi there, just checking in on you. I hope your organization acted right when you took your leave. And how's your mother? Sending you both lots of love and light.

Family comes first always especially in situations like that. They have programs that you can look into that will help you take the time off and still stay in good standing with your employer. Just talk to them and tell them what is going on, and I am sure they will understand.

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