Thoughts on a Soho House membership? I’m a single 30F that’s been in London for the last 5 years (from LA). I’ve made lots of friends but they’ve also been expats and therefore moved back, and making new close friends every couple of years is exhausting. A friend suggested Soho House as a way to have an in-person community and meet new people - any members out here that care to agree or share their opinion?

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Hey there - in the same boat as you. Always a focus to invest in more longer term friends. I think Soho House might be disappointing as it’s already cliquey, and certainly more social climby than others.

If you’re looking to join a members club there are others that are more geared towards friends and centered around certain topics (example: conduit for social causes), but agree that exercise or sports groups is where I’ve had a lot of success.

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Join some sports clubs instead (eg. plenty of running clubs with 30ish year olds). You'll get to meet new people and get fit at the same time.

The biggest difference I've seen is that:

Sports club people are from a wide range of backgrounds and overwhelmingly inclusive, nice and friendly.

Soho house members (and other clubs) are by design from a very narrow range of backgrounds and contain a lot of social status seeking bellends (there are nice people too of course).

You can do a litmus test - watch the latest episodes of made in Chelsea and if you think "these are my people" go for it, if you think they're twats, don't.

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I hear that, but that's just what London is, especially if you live central. Even the English folks tend to leave in their mid 30s to live in the surrounding villages/cities.

Find a community where new people will keep coming to you whilst a core stick around forever. Again, the best example I've seen is running clubs, they have hundreds of members and you have to socialise whilst working out otherwise it's boring AF.

I've just had a child and moved to West London. By doing that I've met so many new people, most of whom will be here for at least another decade. Though that's a pretty extreme solution...

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Hi I'm 30F and recently moved to London as well. One thing I've found super helpful is Facebook groups for women in London (eg GGI) where members organize events to socialize and meet people. Happy to chat more over DM

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Second GGI! I’m also in a similar boat but a bit older. I’ve found a few of good friends through Junior League of London — but it’s also a mix of cliquey, clubby, sorority vibe and helpful down-to-earth folks (you can roll your eyes together with the latter at the bureaucracy lol). Feel free to DM if you want to know more.

Thank you both! I normally take HiiT classes but found a few in club near me that I’ll try… I’m not very athletic so have shy’d away from things like this but what’s the harm in trying.

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