Do any female desis who are married take care of their own parents?

Seen a few posts on people not having/hating on parents with kids. What is your rationale? I for one am excited to have 3 kids running around in the future! Anyone else?

Finally had a breakdown over infertility this AM and trying to pull myself together for Zoom. My tests are fine, but husband can’t deliver during my fertile window. I feel so hopeless with every month that goes by, and he doesn’t have any sense of urgency when HE is the one who wants kids more than I do. Just needed to vent.

On the topic of intimacy with partners… I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and the past year his libido has dropped to zero. Mostly due to work stress (he says). Whenever I try to initiate, he always shuts me down and says he’s not in the mood. I even touch him and he gets hard but stops me as soon as I try to unzip him. We went from once a week to maybe once a quarter.

I’ve talked to him about it and he says I should take care of myself. So frustrated. 😭😭

I’ve learned recently about some traumatic events that family members of mine have gone through but I had no idea had occurred. Besides my parents divorcing I really have not experienced that many hardships or trauma in my life. Sometimes it makes me worry if I’m due for something bad to happen, if the other shoe was going to drop at some point. I know hardships are a part of life and I feel like I have had far less than normal

In the 6 years of our married life me and my husband have always had differences.
One thing we stuck to was not to care about expenses like we saved together, spent together...my salary was his and vice versa...
I have differences with his side of the family...but recently I got to know that he has been buying crypto for his brother without my knowledge.
Mind it that his brother is very well off but for some reason he can't buy crypto himself since he is in India.
Knowing my husband...contd...

My dad who lives in Asia just announced that he had a medical issue. I’m starting to enter the age where I’m going to take care of him financially. It’s a $2,000 hospital bill which in the US is nothing compared to what it represents there (which he can’t afford). He’s going to be fine! Just wanted to share with this group as many of you can understand what it feels like to support your parents when they’re old, not the other way around. I feel so blessed I can help him. 🙏🏽

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, good for nothing husband and they regret that this marriage happened and dragged every single discussion/scenario that we had in these many months in front of the family members.

i never abused my wife, never demanded anything materialistic from her and or her family, i have taken her to different places, bought everything that she demanded for

Your child asks you if they should become a nurse. What do you say?

I ve been in Houston for like 8 months now. I am introverted, and I live by myself. I literally have no friends here outside of the folks I talk to at work.
I need help.

Has anyone quit their job because of a relationship? I started my job 3 months ago and now my employer wants me to move to NY. The thing is, I fell in love during the pandemic with a friend that I have known for 3 years. It's frustrating since I know I could continue my job from home. I would honestly quit my job and wouldn't mind the job search again.

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

My son wants to study the same as me, he is only 12 years old, but he has an immense love for biology. In spite of how flattered I feel I can't stop thinking how difficult it is to find a stable job in this profession, is it time to talk about it, or do I wait for a little longer?

I’m mid 30s F. Recently started seeing this guy, where he is “good enough”. Good conversations, decent time together, he has a good heart, but nothing about him shines. - not fit (I work out everyday and play sports), meh social skills (he doesn’t have best friends, just few he hangs out with), bit less energy than me.
There is a feeling in me that says “he’s going to be a comfortable life partner” and “he is just good enough, but if I break up I won’t find someone for a long time”
Do I stay?

Any advice for how to decline travel? Partner is pushing for us to go but there is a delta variant and I want to be able to spend time with my family without worrying I’ll infect them. The team culture is quite toxic (these people berate each other daily) so I feel uncomfortable speaking up, but I really don’t see a good reason for going there to do work I can do from home.

Anyone raising desi kids in the US? What are are some of your fears?

I know this sounds weird, but I think my fiancé has my tech tapped… I journal and write short stories that I’ve used as an outlet for years. Way before I met him. Lately, it feels like he repeats things that I’ve written or said over the phone. For example, I’ll tell a friend that I want to visit her in San Diego. Then, he’ll come home and say I should visit my friend in San Diego soon. Am I paranoid or is he really listening? I feel violated and exposed. He doesn’t have a tech background.

What do you do when your lifelong friends get married, have kids and disappear to the burbs or wherever and you’re single, lonely and gay?

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

Curious what % of partners/MDs have spouses who also work. And regardless of non/working spouse, what do you do to feel a work/family balance?

I'm a cashier. We just got a new manager, and she's making things really hard for us. She starts work at 4:30am and leaves around 2:30pm, but she still expects us to stay until 6pm and work on the weekends! She gives us really long shifts and doesn't give us much time for breaks. And when we ask her about it, she gets mad.

I'm worried that if I speak up, she'll make my life even harder. I don't want to lose my job because of this—do you guys have any advice?

Hello everyone! This is my first time posting since joining this platform. I’m interested in connecting with someone who is open to HR mentoring. I’ve been in HR now for about six years and have never had a mentor. I’ve been relying mostly on SHRM and other people in the company for feedback. Even if it’s for feedback, I would really appreciate it. Thank you!

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Anyone use SOLELY Ninja for BEC? What was your study time and score? Worth it?

Hi there!
For any legal tech buddies out there, started a bowl! Surprised to see one didn't exist!

Please spread, join and interact. Happy Monday! 😁

Pick up day tomorrow ; Doctor suggests performing an additional elective procedure such as IVM, ZyMot, and Gold-media.Any fishes have any feedback on these procedures? What was your experience if any of you had done.
Appreciate the help.

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Hi Fishes,

Need some help figuring out where I stand in the job market and what profiles should I apply for. Here are some of the roles I play in the team:
1. Business intelligence lead: Plan and implement BI solutions for various banking, healthcare and utilities clients. Across various platforms like Qlik, Cognos, OBIEE, etc.
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The blasts in Sri Lanka are just despicable. What do people want? I assume if this happened in India the easy answer would be “Kashmiri Independence” Struggle to find answers for this one.

I’m about to make biryani and i wanted to ask you guys, how long do you keep it on dum?

Anyone raising desi kids in the US? What are are some of your fears?

Those of you who have worked both in India and US - what are the biggest cultural differences you’ve noticed? All else being constant (like industry, type of work, etc)

Planning on getting married in a temple in the US. Does anyone know what all paperwork (eg marriage license, certificate, registration) I should be thinking about and how to get it done?

What’s the best way to send a package from India to the US by mail?

Why is everyone here so triggered by the White Tiger? That’s how the majority of India lives, please get outside your white collar bubbles. And stop saying “the media always shows poverty”, they also released shows like Bollywood Wives and Indian Matchmaking.

My current employer filed for H1b extension recently. I’m switching jobs and my future employer will be filing a H1b transfer soon. Will 2 parallel applications raise any red flags?Any risk of an RFE?

Any Indian national recently came to US through the London Heathrow airport.

Parents coming from India and have a layover at London airport. Are there any covid restrictions we need to worry about?

They are fully vaccinated and they will have a negative Covid test 12 hours before the start of the journey.

Hey all, do you guys have any recommendations for low carb/high protein Indian diets? I am a South Indian, never feel satiated if I don’t eat my rice. Also not a big fan of rotis. Please pour in what other foods/recipes/advice you have!

Is it possible to apply for a home loan in the US for a property in India?

been in us from last 5 yrs. didnt invest in 401k or any other finacial instruments in us. now coming to regret that. 401k maximized from this year. any reco for index funds, MF education sites

Is it safe to visit Kerala during Christmas & New Years this time? I read a few posts on some commotion and worries me about visiting with family.Wasn’t Kerala safest place to travel once upon a time?

Is Air India giving refunds on flight cancellation. Till what date can you reschedule flight that got cancelled due to covid? (getting different answers from different sources?

T20 spoiled ODI batting behavior.

Guys - Any good insurance suggestion for parents that covers both Canada and US and good number of in-network doctors. Father might need to get checked up here as he got sick last time he was here

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event