Was anyone not excited at the prospect of kid number 2 on the way? Feeling kind of guilty that my first reaction was tepid at best. I mean I know it’s best for our 2 year old to have a sibling, etc. But I’m just not excited to do all this again

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Was in the same boat as you two years ago. Best decision ever to have a second child . My first child is a bit introverted, but my second one is the wild child! Makes our family complete honestly . Things will work out. Don’t sweat it .

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The first 3 years are harder as the older and younger ones are on very different schedules. Mine are now 7 and 9 and I will tell you it was SOOO worth it! They entertain each other a lot, have better social skills than all their only child friends, and while they do fight (human nature) I still think they are both better off having each other and it’s easier on my wife and I as parents. Those first three years are a drop in the bucket.

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This☝🏼

Also we got lucky and had different genders for our 2 and it’s amazing (and rewarding) to experience the difference

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I'm kinda on the same boat OP. My kid is 2, second one is going to be born in August, so just around the corner. I'm not as excited, and I am not thrilled to go through those sleepless nights either.

However, I think I'm not as excited because ignorance was bliss. Now I know what to expect. I will say though, I am looking forward to meeting her and eventually (😅) thoroughly enjoying life with her.

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Hadn’t thought about it like that. I guess I know too much now vs had nothing to to dread before

Just worried I'll have zero time left for myself. I know the connection will grow and be worth it.

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Yea. My ex-wife

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Not going to lie. It is a grind and 1+1 does not equal 2, but you are more comfortable and less nervous /cautious with the second child

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I’m in the same boat OP!

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I hadn’t quite processed it and my son was just born 3 months early so… no time like the present to adjust!

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My first was a boy that was pretty easy apart from feeding issues for the first year, second a girl that I wasn't sure how to handle, third I was just worried about workload and logistics. Now they're 5/3/1 and I can handle all 3 alone at home but can't really do all 3 out and about just yet

We go out for dinner and have someone watch the kids. Yet to do a trip without the kids but we both travel for work alone quite often. You'll probably need to find more things you can enjoy doing at home or with the older kids

We have a 3 yr old and planning on a second.

We’re transplants in Oregon that just hosted a week of friends and their two kids on Hood and the coast.

Ngl, we concluded the visit that maybe two isn’t for us. I know their kids were out of their routine, away from home and two time zones away. But it was tough to witness.

I don’t want my girl to be psycho single child. And we really hit a home runner with her and I do want another. But damn was it terrifying seeing that train wreck.

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