Well, since it appears professional butt kissing gets you further in this industry than actually being good at your job, I'm going to need some help. Does anyone have any advice on how I can lower my pride and start sucking up more effectively?

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I might get called hailcorporate for this, but don't view it as corporate butt kissing. It's getting the people who have leverage over you to like you. Your managers like you, it gets you more grace. Your partners like you, it gets you more pay. Your barista likes you, you might get a free drink here and there. That's just life, we deal with other human beings, and you're probably also nicer to people you like. If you want a place to start, try Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People, and follow it up with Dan Ariely's Predictably Irrational.

If someone is genuinely terrible at their job, they'll eventually get found out. Don't worry about them, just do your job and your relationships well.

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This. It’s all about your connections and making it easier for your higher ups. Even if they don’t show the appreciation, it gets noted and considered during review cycles. Those more social get promoted quicker than the more technical folk who just crunch numbers all day.

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Happy to share all my insights and strategies. Come on over this weekend and after you wash my cars we can talk 😉

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Think about what the partners and higher ups are most focused on - efficiency, cost-saving, client experience - and think of things you can do to stand out in those areas visibly. Show them how you are a key asset in helping the firm achieve those goals. This is where you need to learn how to be a spokesperson for yourself. Read ‘how to win friends and influence people’ as a good guide

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Think of it as networking. You know all those articles about folks that have been laid off and haven't gotten a job for years? You NEED to network.

Director 1 had a great framing. I'll provide a slightly different way of looking at it along those lines - it may be that the problems the people you view as butt kissers are solving for their bosses are the ones that matter to said bosses more than the more obvious things accomplished through technical skills that are ostensibly the job. If by keeping people happy it allows the manager to be left alone for a bit, that might be valued more highly than higher quality work. There is a lot happening in work beyond the surface job. Figure out what your bosses really want and help deliver it. Most of them won't care whether you say nice things about them if you're doing that.

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