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What that phrase means is, when life starts getting good and the promises come true, if I get too “busy” or even worse, too prideful and start thinking “I got this”, and then my meetings drop off and my connections to other recovery people drops off, and then I know my ass would drop off and I’d be off to the races eventually.
No matter how good life gets, it’s better when I stay close to the program and humbly remember that it’s my HP in charge, not me.
I recently heard a variation of this in a share and jotted it down:
"Don't let the things you gain in sobriety lead you out of sobriety."
Important reminder that we need to continue to do the work and that being an alcoholic isn't some transitory, temporary state. We need to do the work even when things are going well in our lives and not let our egos tell us we are somehow completely "fixed".
"no one cares what you think" - my ego used to think that my belligerent thoughts and opinions are what made the world go round. I needed everyone to know my judgement of the world around me, which was a facade to make sure people didn't look to closely at me and my inferiority complex. Now I recognize that I'm just a fish swimming in the school with everyone else and people care about my actions. And the best actions I can take are in service of others.
Does it need to be said? Does it need to be said by me? Does it need to be said right now? - no = keep my mouth shut and do some prayer.
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I just shared the “Does it need to be said…” saying with a friend this weekend. Always good to work that in during any “pause” and/or “restraint of pen and tongue” moment.
I’ve never done AA, just wasn’t for me. But in treatment I’ve heard:
“Nothing changes if nothing changes”
“Your worst day sober, is better than your best day using”
“Progress, not perfection” - I use this in all facades of life
“Be comfortable, being uncomfortable”
“Learn to sit with your thoughts”
“I realized that my rock bottom, has a basement”
“When you relapse, the runways get shorter, and the landings get rougher” - this is 100% true, I relapsed a few months ago, went from having two whiskeys (day 1-2) to half a bottle (day 3-5) to 2/3 (day 6-7), before I realized that I needed to take PTO and go back home for a week, to level my head.
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I’ve never heard “I realized that my rock bottom has a basement”…that’s good, and so true.
And sorry about the relapse; that’s never fun but it sounds like you’re back on solid ground.
This is one that stuck with me:
"I didn't drink alcohol, I USED it."
Its a succinct reminder that for my entire life (I turn 59 this year, got sober at 56) I was not and could not be a social drinker. There was something much deeper going on, and I am powerless over the "hold" this substance has over me. Near the end, my last 3 to 4 years of drinking this was abundantly clear. For all of my outward markers of "success" that society lauds us for, I was a miserable user, drinking 14 to 16 beers a day, more on weekends, hiding empties, trying to "hide" my amount of drinking, my relationships crumbling. This statement succinctly sums up where I was at most of my life and reminds me of how quickly and dangerously I could slip back if I delude myself into thinking I can drink like a normal person. I can't.
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“The man takes a drink. Then the drink takes a drink. Then the drink takes the man.”
Don’t leave before the miracle happens