What's the best way to give feedback to leadership when there is fear of retaliation and that they will turn it around on me?

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I felt this exact feeling a week ago during a very senior level review I was contributing to. I said right up front that I felt that I was in a bit of an awkward situation giving “constructive” feedback to my bosses boss. The person collecting the feedback picked up on it right away by saying “are you afraid there will be some sort of retribution?” And I said “yeah, maybe.” And left it at that. I then made sure to give any negative feedback with a positive piece attached to it and minimized very specific examples so that notes couldn’t be tracked back directly to me.

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