What's the generally accepted standard for holiday parties - spouses invited or not?

My firm's local office holiday party will be at an arcade, no spouses. Is it just me, or is this weird on several levels?

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Must be a BDO party.

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I’d say 95% of the holiday parties I have been to in my plus 30 year career have not given a plus one and I am totally fine with it. The ones where there have been were way overcrowded and awkward.

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Depends on the firm and year. There’s been years spouses or significant others were allowed and year swhere it was employees only.

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There is no standard

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It is not weird just disappointing.

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Even within a firm, it’s office-by-office. We’ve never had spouses invited in my 9 years at Deloitte NYC. I’ve heard other cities do sometimes. TBH they can’t fit all the employees that want to go (it “sells out”) so they definitely don’t want spouses.

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I concur.

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This is bizarre. I’ve been given a +1 every year since being with KPMG (7 years)…in a large office/HCOL area…and in bad financial years for the firm. I might just have an OMP that prioritizes the holiday party in his budget though lol. Not sure if all kpmg offices get +1s though.

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Depends on the year and the budget. I'd say most years we get a +1, but there are some that we don't.

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My office in NYC doesn't have +1s. It's not uncommon

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no hired guests

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The hired guests in question are those members of the oldest profession.

To me an office party was always about mingling with just the coworkers. But I might be looking at it differently.

In my 15 years only partners had a plus one

Oh please. They are not ‘paying’ but rather deducting from our raise and/or bonus.

Mine last year was mini golf. No guests

That's dumb. So is mine.

Arcade?!! Wow.

Totally embarrassing. I would be hard pressed to attend.

Working in Chicago law firms, my husband has NEVER attended an event, however he has met me after an event at the ping pong/arcade and we hung out with some of our colleagues who still wanted to play

Sounds like BDO. Every holiday party I’ve been to in 9 years allowed a plus one and was at least at a halfway decently cool venue but I’m in LA. Feel bad for companies that don’t allow plus one, honestly probably wouldn’t even go if that was the case. Sounds lame.

When I was at GT in another office we were never allowed a plus one. I preferred it that way - old partners showing off their younger than me trophy wives would be gross.

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Depends on the company/firm because i think there is no standard.

Forget business events - my wife and I don't take each other to school reunions.

Ok

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