When you’re wondering if you need marriage counseling instead of looking forward to vacation planning 😔

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You can do both. Been through it and it can really help. 99.9% is learning how to communicate respectfully, which is hard for us a-type personalities. Hard to turn our a-type approach off at home after a week of dealing with clients and team members.

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Hang in there fellow passenger. Marriage isn't easy. Consulting isn't easy. Making marriage and consulting work together isn't easy.

Go back to basics - all starts with actually loving yourself in a non-arrogant way.

Good luck.

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Talk on vacation about your relationship. People tend to get along better on vacation because no stress no job or kids pulling at you. Have that nice glass of wine and dinner and really talk. If you both decide then for marriage counseling you will be more likely to follow through because it is coming from the heart and not heat of the moment

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I know it’s hard to do but bite your tongue. Rise above and know what you want to accomplish at the end of the day. To get past this rough time
Think of it as a client who you can’t make happy. You try different approaches to get their buy in. Use that same method here. Sometimes when the heart strings pull it makes it more difficult
Also as hard as it may be think of where the spouse is coming from. Being home alone while you’re traveling or raising the kids and feels no support. Or ??? Try to see their “perception” not necessarily the right perspective but it’s to truly hear them and not just listen Heads up. This too shall pass. Hang in there

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Sounds like you made a mistake and overlooked an apology. I might be wrong. But just say sorry and buy the spouse some expensive shoes. Life will be okay.

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go for counselling... soon. Some partners are looking for any excuse to blame you. Doesn't matter what you are saying/doing. They may have already made up their mind. Good luck! You are a human being that deserves to be happy.

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I’m having a hard time right now because spouse is doing the classic “score keeping” and bringing up some stupid I said 2 days ago...I’m afraid to talk because it’s going to blow up in face somehow

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