Whenever I talk with my family about what I do, how much I earn, what my plans are, or what strategy consulting actually means, they basically don’t believe me. The weirdest situation happened lately when I checked my company phone (since I waited for an important mail) and my older sister said, that I just have two phones to feel important. I honestly don’t care about prestige but its so annoying. Does anyone have similar experience? How should I deal with it?

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Even though you don't do what you do to impress your family, it's still hurtful when they talk to you that way. I would try to focus your conversations with them around different things because they obviously aren't trying to understand or appreciate your work. Some people just don't get it, so you will have to have other people in your life who take your work seriously if that's important to you. I'm sorry your sister said that... she could have said it for a lot of reasons, but tbh it seems like a reflection of her, not you.

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One of the biggest parts of growing up is learning not to care about pleasing others but easier said than done! I deal with this all the time from my family but I just try to put it in perspective—they frequently will say “wow, Morgan Stanley!!“ if they hear about someone with a random back office job there. At the end of the day, I know the truth and try not to be frustrated

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Whenever I talk with my family about what I do, how much I earn, what my plans are, or what strategy consulting actually means, they basically don't believe me. This is enough to know if your family is right or wrong. Work shouldn't make you feel proud It's just what you do to get food on the table and remember you are where you are thanks to your family.

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A1 I completely disagree with you

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Maybe tell them more specifics about your projects? Maybe you’re being very high level and they don’t get it?

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Thats the most interesting thing: whenever I try to simplify it, the disbelieve is even worse. “Do you really want to tell us you have that much responsibility?”, “so you are really telling us the management of large corporations lets you do those tasks that young?” (I’m SC and unter 30) so the more they understand what I’m doing the more they don’t believe me.

Tbh maybe they just don’t care? Try to show them the end-product (more like what’s the output for the world) on what you do. Maybe taking the explanation from another point of view will make them realise ?

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My family has zero understanding or interest in what I do. It sometimes hurts my feelings contrasting times the level of interest compared to my girlfriends parents (hell, they ask more about my job than my parents). But at the end of the day it doesn’t really matter as long as they care about me on other, more important ways. But I get it

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I️ feel this a lot when it comes to availability. When I️ have lighter weeks, I’m activity making plans with friends and talking about how open/flexible my schedule is. But when there’s issues with a project and days go later, my friends have complained that in bed better boundaries

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