Why do people rush to make things official and pretend like it’s a perfect match when it takes time to really get to know someone and see if things truly work?

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Because she’s hot and I’m trying to lock it down…. Duh

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Because life is shot and people are impatient.

It doesn’t take THAT much time time, you generally know within a few weeks to a month of talking to them

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I think there is a difference between making things official vs pretending it’s perfect. Making things official for me means being exclusive so you get commitment from the other person that they have the same goal as you and you can work and evolve together in that direction. Perfect does not exist.

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Sometimes you think the person is so amazing and unique and you can work out the fine points later. Unfortunately that’s delusional.

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Depends on what you mean official. If you mean exclusive, most people want a monogamous relationship where you can take time to build the relationship with that significant other instead of knowing that you might be comparing them to others. For me, official doesn't imply marriage, kids, house, etc..

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Because without exclusivity they can always find someone else. So if they seem good lock it down and get to know them more with the umbrella of exclusivity. If it’s taking you too long, like 3 months plus with consistent conversation and meet ups/dates, then maybe they’re not the one.

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2 things… a love bombing narcissist needs you, or the love chemicals of nature are making them feel good

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"Make things official" - as in changing your status on social media? Because you need to receive congrats from your friends and followers?

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