Seeing local parents reacting to the public school lottery results in DC, got me super nervous about when it’s my kids turn.

I hate the idea of having so little control.

I find that not many gay guys have kids, is it because of the high surrogate cost? Or simply the lack of parenting desire?

New attorney here! Currently, I’m a child advocacy lawyer, but I want to get into family law (divorce, custody, etc.). I’m constantly advised to steer clear of family law; but is it really THAT bad??

Mental wellness: Have been in a long term toxic relationship and always knew he doesn’t respect me. But last evening his texts were so directly disrespectful that am not even angry; am sad. Am usually always very anxious (diagnosed with Generalised anxiety disorder) but after that interaction, I feel numb and slow and seems like my bp has dropped, am walking slowly and I cant talk the usual fast way I talk.

Seriously wanna divorce my wife who’s not necessarily a bad person but I feel angry about her all the time. I always have to fight with her over the small things. I feel she’s playing a power game and trying to take control whenever she gets the chance.

The only moment she steps back and be the person I want is when I get really angry and she can sense it. Why do I have to do this every time to get peace?

No kids, but even I am not afraid to divorce, I don’t feel it’s worth it!

People with kids, how much do you spend on daycare?

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.

Wasn’t Brian Kelly engaged? His fiancé poofed from his social media for the entire lockdown and even now. I think I’ve no life and am such a busy body

Has anyone ever been to the Alo Restaurant? I have never been there myself but I was wondering if this would be a good setting to propose?

Do my fellow desi folks cook all meals at home everyday? I spend so much time being in the cycle of planning, buying, cooking and cleaning and get very little time for self care and studying for some self development. What can I do to save me sometime in the kitchen. SO helps with a lot of stuff buts the whole process is still time consuming.

I am a woman with pretty severe ADHD. I’ve taken medicine pretty much every day since I was diagnosed as a child. Currently I take Vyvanse with 10 mg Adderall. Even with the medicine, I sometimes I feel like I’m barely a functioning adult. My SO and I maybe want kids but I’m terrified of 1) do I have to stop medicine while pregnant and breast feeding, 2) could I even do my job without medicine, and 3) could I really take care of a baby?!? I’d love to hear other’s experiences or thoughts! Thanks!

Potentially have offer at a Big4 tech firm on the other side of the country, SO can't move with me due to 2 more years left of PhD here. Most likely can't get a post-doc there afterwards. What to do?

Only in Westlake can a Latina mom driving a Mercedes be mistaken as their own child's nanny.

I always help my friend out with his finances but now he's on the verge if getting rich should I expect any favors in return or just live my life as it is

Do we need to put in 2 weeks or could I negotiate to quit before that? (But still keep great relationships)

How difficult is it to be a single parent? (Soon to be one)

My gf and I are having a big discussion and I would love to get your thoughts on this. It’s about how much we keep in touch and communicate when I’m on the road. She needs to hear from me everyday multiple times and if I don’t answer her texts within a few hours, she can get quite controlling (text over and over again, also on my work phone, asks what I am doing and gets upset). I am not used to that and have the trust if she doesn’t text back, that it’s for good reasons, busy at work…. (Ctd)

What to do when you find a wide variety of lies from your SO? My head is spinning.

How would you feel if your spouse wanted separate bedrooms? I am divorced, looking for a LTR, and I want my spouse and I to have our own personal space. I don’t want someone physically by my side 24/7, if that makes sense. We are welcome in each other’s bedrooms, but there is no requirement that we stay in the same bedroom all the time.

My old side piece and I have been over for a minute now. It was fun until we fell for each other. We are both 'happy'in our current relationships. We took a break from talking, it seemed like we were both still sensitive about the past and still have love for each other. Recently, he reached out and voiced that he wants to talk more. He video chat me, and now texts frequently. But he only texts when he's at work or in his car, when his girlfriend isn't around. Does this mean anything?

"Thank you for joining Citi audio conferencing services."

Pls give me 11 likes to activate DM. TIA

Negative PCR and Positive Rapid???

wife took two PCR tests, at 3 and 5 days after exposure, both negative. took two rapid tests (2 different brands) at 8 days and both came back positive.

thoughts?

[Request] if anyones feeling generous and has expiring United Club passes, one of my good friends is going on her honeymoon Monday. I’ve already upgraded them to first class (domestic) but would like to get them lounge access before too. I’ve got one pass but would need another one for her partner. Anyone have an extra they could spare?

Does JP back out of a given offer? Or delay Date of joining for experienced employees. Just checking in.

Someone fill me in on Hannah B please?!!

Who do ya got winning it all?

For people investing in SPACs, what’s your strategy? 1) get in early at near NAV and wait for pump; 2) buy the rumor when in talks with a potential merge target; 3) wait until an LOI/DA is signed; or 4) wait until a merge is completed?

How do people in hcol cities do it? All in, I make a little under 200k in Atlanta. Im able to max out my 401k, HSA, & back door roth. I save 1200 + buy 2 shares of VOO /month. Mortgage/HOA is 2100. After all that, I find myself watching every penny on my Amex bc money feels tight. Would love to move to a bigger city but PwC wouldn’t pay that much more & it’s hard to envision mortgage or rent doubling like it would in SF/LA/NYC. Tips for how to make your budget work? Just save less?

Discovered (once more) my boyfriend deleting/changing names of a co-worker that we had already fought about because they were crossing the line with how they communicated and how often. I somehow felt this was coming.. but can’t ignore the fact that it makes me really sad.

Has anyone dealt with submitting domestic adoption costs for reimbursement? Do we just email them our receipts as the expense has occurred. Is there forms to fill out as well? I just started the process and made my first payment and want to know how to submit.

I have weekly check ins with my manager and sometimes we kill a half hour just because it's on the calendar. So unnecessary. #micromanagement

Anyone here taken a coding boot camp and successfully pivot their career to Software Development?

What are the typical exit options for FDD? Not rare cases

What do powersports parts managers typically make for salary??

Hello Mentors,

I am not able to decide whether I am getting lowballed.
I have 1 year and 10 months of EXP as a developer.
Got an offer of 14 LPA base and 13 L worth of stocks.
I was not able to negotiate as I didn't have any other offer in hand.
Is this range up to the current market? Or Any suggestions How I can proceed further?

Hey guys,
We are planning to move to Virginia Beach. Any teachers that can please share their experiences?
Want to give another shot to teaching in a state different than texas

Talk to me about discipline. What age did you really start laying down the law? Im patiently waiting out the terrible twos but at some point will need to reign it in if this continues...

Thank y’all for starting this bowl! Newly expecting mama here 🤰🏾I’ll be 11 weeks tomorrow! My husband and I are praying that I give birth to healthy 🤴🏾 or 👸🏾. I look forward to learning from this group!

Any of the sisters deal with gestational diabetes but already had a restrictive diet pre and during pregnancy?
Doctor says I have it, but I honestly don’t believe them. I don’t eat cane sugar (not even in sauces), gluten, dairy, or soy. So not surprised I couldn’t process their drink-I don’t consume stuff like that regularly. I walk a mile or do HIIT training 5x/ week. The condition doesn’t run in my family (and my mom has 4 sisters w/kids-good sample size) (cont’d in comments)

Holidays are coming.

Any one have unique customs/traditions to share? Looking to establish our own ways of celebrating.

Anyone have tips on culturally relevant (read Black) parent podcasts or parent preparation programs?

I’m looking for something similar to New Mom Boss but for us

Thinking of getting a Black Baby Alive doll for my daughter. Preferably one that talks and moves, but there seems to be so many. Any suggestions?

Any thoughts on Montessori toys. School etc vs it’s competition?

Expecting dad. Nice to be on here.

My wife and I need a break. Had our first baby in March and we are worn out (getting better) but very tired. Wife said to me “I need us time”, and she’s never said that in the 3 years we’ve been married. Suggestions on getaways or things to do?

Black mama here with a toddler and infant 👋🏾

What to do for a spouse who is struggling emotionally but refuses to get professional help?
I’m 17 weeks pregnant with our first. My husband is really struggling with emotional/ mental health. I’ve asked him to consider counseling or other medical alternatives. Instead, he wants to talk to me until 11:30 pm or 12 am at night. I want to be there for him but I can’t. I’m tired. I’m still working VERY full time, and I was just diagnosed with early onset preeclampsia 😫

Thanks all for this group. 1st time expecting dad 🧔🏾.

I’m a little bit all-over the place and not sure where to start financial planning from.

I live in a Tier-1 city and think it’s necessarily to move to Tier-3. It’s important that my kids grow up in a house vs. apartment. Also need to stretch my dollar as far as possible.

Total comp - $180K

How much should I budget for the 1st year of baby?

Potential unintended consequences of my parenting decisions is the most stressful thing ever.

The “right” approach can feel so clear one moment, then feel like a huge mistake the next.

Ladies, any suggestions our 8th anniversary gift for the wife? We are in our early 30s. I am running out of ideas over the year 😔.

About to be a new dad. Starting to look into childcare but feeling a little overwhelmed. Would love to hear thoughts/opinions on what to look for besides convenience.

Today I REALLY miss sleeping in on Saturdays.

Been up since 6:30, and she had the nerve not to eat the pancakes I made. 😡😡😡

Sooo my nanny fell asleep holding the baby. My husband and I work from home. So, he walked in, saw them and put the baby in the crib.
Ask: Any advice on how to address this with the nanny? Also, it it a fire able offense?

Context: Nanny started full time on 1/24; baby is not quite 5 months old; we are WFH and have cameras installed that are visible (she should know they exist); first time having a nanny

Hey family-Has anyone gone with a pediatrician who didn’t have hospital rights to do the exam at birth?
Context: first baby, high risk pregnancy (blood pressure), in northern Dallas suburbs but delivering in Dallas proper; strongly prefer a doctor of the diaspora (my OB is black; we want our son to see black excellence all around), but those in the suburbs tend not to have rights in hospitals in Dallas proper