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I think I'm lucky in this way because I grew into my looks instead of out of them. I honestly believe I'm more attractive at 41 than I was at 25. I'm more confident and so I command more respect than I did then. That being said, men certainly don't flirt with me like they used to when I was in my twenties or even early thirties.
YES!
41 > 25yo all damn day!
Hello respect & confidence!
Goodbye (most) gross predatory men!
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I would agree with PO - I don't think it's necessarily directly age that affects how I'm treated at work but I'm certainly far more confident of myself at my age than 10 years ago. I also do look younger than my age (maybe late 20s).
I agree that it's less about how I'm treated and more about how I show up with more understanding of what I bring to the table. I remember hearing (when i was in my 20s) that the best sex, relationships, and overall gratification in the workplace all happened past the 40s. So far, they're right about all of it. (:
They treated me just the same except for new hires of course. I never impose my age nor demand a specific amount of respect because of it. I get the respect I deserve because I do the same for my co-workers.
You have the right to answer vaguely, dodge, or even declare flatly, "I'm not comfortable answering that question right now."
To me, this appears to be acceptable. People will definitely ask if you appear young to them.
Frankly, I believe it's impolite. I suppose it is a method for others to criticize or disregard you depending on how young or old you are.
Normally, the question is good on its own, but I believe there are times when the manner in which they ask you comes off as judgmental.
Maybe just repond with "How old are you?" and smile. It's not an appropriate question, and flipping it around will either make them realize it or force them to ask again if they truly want to know.
I think that age matters in the way we are treated. As we get experience we are more confident in ourselves and our skills. Of course no matter how experienced you are, you can still have the imposter syndrome.
But in a junior position, you are a lot more vulnerable. Men tend to take advantage of this.
For me it definitely changed.
I had men trying to kiss me in company night outs, tell me in appropriate things or received inappropriate emails. But that hasn’t happened now that I am in my 30s and I think it’s because of confidence and the security of having a senior position.